TRULY THE GREATEST HELP
'Indeed in the Messenger of Allah you have a good example to follow for him who hopes for (the meeting with)Allah and the Last Day, and remembers Allah much.' (Al-Quran, S. Al-Ahzab; s. 33, v. 21)
O slaves of Allah! Do you look forward to the meeting with Allah? Do you have faith and hope in the Last Day? Do you remember Allah much?
If your answer to any one of those questions is a 'yes', then by all means, heed the reminder of this above-quoted verse!
How is it that so many people world-wide claim that they hold a deep and strong love for our beloved prophet(SAAW) and yet they choose others from past and present to imitate their practices and speech?
The most obvious and strongest way to prove your love of someone or something is imitation.
We have been told by our beloved prophet(SAAW) that we will be raised up among those whom we loved in this life.
It is said in the Quran: 'Say (O Mohammed,SAAW, to mankind): 'If you (really) love Allah then follow me (i.e., accept Islamic monotheism, follow the Quran and the sunnah), Allah will love you and forgive you your sins.'' (s. 3, v. 31)
Who do you wish to raised up with, or among whose company? Do you truly wish to be raised and finally situated among our beloved prophet(SAAW) and his beloved companions(ARA)?
If so, then it has become truly important and incumbent upon you to study for yourself from the works left to us by renowned scholars of the lives of these important personalities.
And then, once you have learned the important lessons from their lives, then apply it step by step into your daily lives yourselves. Hence, imitating the life and practices of our beloved prophet(SAAW).
Have you come across some difficulties or obstacles in your life? Have you had disappointments or times of sadness and despair?
Surely, do not despair of the mercy and blessings of Allah. And never become ungrateful to Him of the endless blessings that He has bestowed upon each and every one of us, regardless of any hard times or trials and tribulations that may befall us from time to time.
Rather, gain strength and fortitude and inspiration from the reminder that even in the face of trials, there is still great blessing to be found and gained.
To prove this point, let us take a look at some of the revelations of the prophet's(SAAW) sayings from the many various ahadith on this matter:
Narrated Abu Hurairah(ARA): Allah's Messenger(SAAW) said, 'A Muslim, male or female, continues to remain under trial in respect of his life, property and offspring till he or she faces Allah the Exalted, in a state that he or she has no sin on his or her record.' (At-Tirmidhi)(Riyadh-As-Saliheen, v. 1, p. 70, #49)
*We come to know from this hadith, that Muslims are special targets of trials, but a redeeming feature of these trials is that Muslim's sins are pardoned through them provided they remain firm in their faith and patience.
And:
Narrated Abu Sa'id and Abu Hurairah(ARA): The Prophet(SAAW) said, 'Never a believer is stricken with a discomfort, and illness, and anxiety, a grief or mental worry or even the pricking of a thorn that his sins are not expiated for him.' (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)(Riyadh-As-Saliheen, v. 1, p. 60, #37)
*This hadith mentions the special grace and mercy of Allah for the Muslims. It relates how Allah turns the hardships and troubles suffered by a Muslim into a means of expiation for his sins. But this is only possible if the believer exercises patience. However, if he starts weeping and wailing instead of showing patience then beside suffering hardships, he would be deprived the reward which lies in bearing them patiently. Thus, he shall have to take the burden of additional sins also.
Two very important reminders for all to remember concerning adversity or calamity (or in more simple lay terms: 'bad times'):
1. Our life on this earth is a series of ongoing tests. These tests act like a sieve to 'weed out' the true believers from the hypocrites. And these tests are a means by which Allah(SWT) helps us to strengthen our faith.
2. Regardless of what we may be going through, others have had to pass through similar and perhaps tougher tests than what we ourselves are having to endure. Therefore, we are not alone in the experience nor are we alone in our pain.
We have been told in the Quran:
'O ye who believe! Seek help with patient perseverance and prayer; for Allah is with those who patiently persevere.' (s. 2, v. 153)
The prophet(SAAW) was well-known to have not only close and strong affiliation to Allah, but he(SAAW) was also well known for his strong love of the prayer and high tendency towards the prayer, particularly in times of adversity and calamity.
He(SAAW) would often turn to Bilal in times of adversity or when feeling strong waves of sadness or depression, urging him to make the call to the prayer. Simply because he found such solace and peace and tranquility in the prayer. A virtual escape, and eventual solution to, the problems conflicting and confronting him of the moment.
O, my dear brethren, remember that Satan is the greatest tempter and the reason of much of our feelings of discord and jealousy and discontent in this life. So when you have any of those feelings coming on, then proceed towards the prayer, imitating the practice of our beloved prophet(SAAW).
Even if it is not time for one of the prescribed prayers, then make your intention for a voluntary prayer. And, as has been established as dependable tradition, the first step towards the prayer is the intention, then the cleansing with water (wudhu).
This is a most important aspect towards conquering or defeating Satan and his whisperings.
Remember that Satan was created from fire. And the most effective element in extinguishing the fire is water!
So, once you have performed the ceremonial cleansing itself, you have made the best step towards defeating Satan this time.
Also very important to remember-none of us can conquer Satan on our own. We need Allah's help and strength to do so. So seek Allah's protection always, by saying: 'Aoudhubillahi minash-shaytaanir-rajim' (I seek refuge with Allah from Satan the accursed!)
Take the fullest advantage of this prayer as you seek to strengthen yourself through patient perseverance and prayer. Take the time to recite verses from which you can receive higher and more meaningful inspiration. Contemplate on those verses as you recite.
Take full advantage of the position and action of the sajda (prostration). The Prophet(SAAW) has so wisely told us that the time or position in which we are closest to the Creator is while we are in the state of the sajda (prostration). Hence, he(SAAW) advised us to increase the supplication (dua) at this stage.
While in this position cry your heart out to Allah! Bring your complaints and desires and wishes to the surface! Turn your life and you rproblems over to Allah!
Glory be to Him! He knows all, and sees all! He knows that which is in the deepest part of your inner souls!!
Surely, He knows all of our problems and wishes and desires without us having to admit them.
But, as I have stated before-this worldly life is nothing more than an ongoing test. This world is the testing ground by which the hypocrites are weeded out from among the true believers. And it is the worldly experience which serves as a method of strengthening for the true believers.
Allah(SWT) has given us the guidance and criterion by which to improve ourselves and find the path back to Him. Will we take it?
He knows our innermost desires and needs. Yet He(SWT) wisely refrains from granting us everything till we make the move to humble ourselves and come to Him.
In that is a great lesson to be learned. Will we humble ourselves to ask of Him? Will we be thankful of all the blessings He has bestowed upon us? Will we seek the path that leads toward Him and eternal salvation and utter undisturbed peace and happiness?
Or will we be distracted by the fleeting and momentary distractions of the pastimes of this worldly life?
O, my dear brothers and sisters-take heed, and find true peace and solace for your lives. Not only for this worldly life, but more importantly for the Eternity!
Seek help with patient perseverance and prayer!!
Tuesday, June 12, 2007
TO ALLAH IS OUR RETURN
TO ALLAH IS OUR RETURN
Allah (SWT) says (translation of the meanings):
'And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives, and fruits, but give glad tidings to those who are patient. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: 'Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.''(s. 2, v. 155-156).
One of the most difficult things for a person to bear in this life is the loss of a loved one. For sure, we all face difficulty and hardship when we are confronted with the loss of the material fruits of this life, or even with a loss to ourselves by decline in health or disease. But it seems to me that the most difficult of calamity to cope with is to face the life of this world without the continuance of any of our loved ones along with us.
For those of you who have had to cope with the loss of a loved one, you understand what I am saying. And for those of you who have yet to face such a calamity, you will not fully understand until that time may come to you. And as true as this test is part of this worldly life, I pray that each of us will have the strength and fortitude to persevere with patience, and eventually reap the reward promised by Allah. For surely, He never relinquishes on His promise.
There is no loss which is easy for the person to bear. But of all the possible manners of loss, perhaps the most heart-wrenching, and therefore most difficult to sustain, is that of a parent who's child dies.
Due to the most natural procession of events of life, we most generally assume and take for granted that the elder fall weak, ill, and then die before the younger generation. And for the vast majority of cases, this is indeed the normal procession of events.
But this life has no guarantees, and we should not take it for granted nor assume that death will come to the elderly before the younger. Truly, our lives and the length of our lives is the sole knowledge of Allah, and it is with His power and permission that the life continues or ends.
As a mother myself, I can only imagine the sheer heartbreak that one faces at the loss of any of her children.
Several days ago I went to pay my respects to a family of our acquaintance of whom their adult son had only several days previously died. He was a husband and father of four. He had apparently been battling cancer for quite a while. Finally, Allah's decree of the disease won the battle. May Allah shed His mercy upon him.
There is no doubt that he will be missed by many. Although there are several uncles and even their grandfathers present in the children's lives, still there is no replacement for their father. A person may have many children or re-marry any number of times, but we all –regardless of our ages and stage in life-have only one father and one mother. Whenever we may lose either of those parents, there is no chance of replacement.
Yet no matter how hard it is for one to lose either of the parents, still I believe something that is more difficult to deal with in patience is the loss of a child.
As I visited with the family in my humble effort to join them in their sorrow and to gently remind them to remember Allah and be patient, I was touched by the extreme patience and perseverance I recognized in the mother of the deceased. Although she was not adorned with the kohl eyeliner, still her appearance was extremely neat and groomed. And it was not necessarily her neatness which caught my eye so much as the appearance of her eyes-very little, if any at all, residue or evidence of crying. Her countenance was, of course, of serious nature-but obviously not teary-eyed. As new visitors came in, some would make purposeful extensions of remembrance of the deceased and reminding the mother and all others of this natural course in life that we must all eventually take. They would also voice reminders of the importance of patience at such times. Most generally, the mother would simply reply in a tearless
agreement to their statements, and perhaps she would also express praises and thanks to Allah.
Upon conversing with one of the daughters-in-law of the household, I learned that this stance of the mother was not merely a front for the visiting public. Rather, she was this same pillar of strength for the whole family even behind closed doors and away from the on-looking visitors. Whenever she would notice some of the younger ones crying, she would reprimand them-reminding that his death was a mercy from Allah in that he had suffered much from the disease. And she would continue on to remind them that even if not for his suffering, still this was the plan and desire of Allah to take him at this time, so they must all be thankful to Him for all things.
Even in her most private of moments when she was in prayer to the Creator, she was reportedly ever patient, and in true form of a faithful slave-calling out to Allah to shed His mercy upon her beloved son.
Such utter patience at a time of great calamity! Surely, the greatest pain any mother can endure is the loss of a child. Yet, this woman shows us great strength and love for Allah through her patience and seeking perseverance through prayer.
We are taught by the Islamic teachings that the test for patience is at the time of the onset of the calamity, not at a later time. It is easy for all of us, although still painful, to awaken a bit later after the onset of the calamity and then gather our senses towards a patient acceptance of the reality of the loss. But the test for us is at the onset of the calamity-to be patient and accepting of Allah's decree and worship Him with remembrance of Him and thanks to Him.
Verily, we come from Allah and to Him is our return.
I pray that we can all find the strength to be patient whenever we are faced with the onset of a calamity.
Allah (SWT) says (translation of the meanings):
'And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives, and fruits, but give glad tidings to those who are patient. Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: 'Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.''(s. 2, v. 155-156).
One of the most difficult things for a person to bear in this life is the loss of a loved one. For sure, we all face difficulty and hardship when we are confronted with the loss of the material fruits of this life, or even with a loss to ourselves by decline in health or disease. But it seems to me that the most difficult of calamity to cope with is to face the life of this world without the continuance of any of our loved ones along with us.
For those of you who have had to cope with the loss of a loved one, you understand what I am saying. And for those of you who have yet to face such a calamity, you will not fully understand until that time may come to you. And as true as this test is part of this worldly life, I pray that each of us will have the strength and fortitude to persevere with patience, and eventually reap the reward promised by Allah. For surely, He never relinquishes on His promise.
There is no loss which is easy for the person to bear. But of all the possible manners of loss, perhaps the most heart-wrenching, and therefore most difficult to sustain, is that of a parent who's child dies.
Due to the most natural procession of events of life, we most generally assume and take for granted that the elder fall weak, ill, and then die before the younger generation. And for the vast majority of cases, this is indeed the normal procession of events.
But this life has no guarantees, and we should not take it for granted nor assume that death will come to the elderly before the younger. Truly, our lives and the length of our lives is the sole knowledge of Allah, and it is with His power and permission that the life continues or ends.
As a mother myself, I can only imagine the sheer heartbreak that one faces at the loss of any of her children.
Several days ago I went to pay my respects to a family of our acquaintance of whom their adult son had only several days previously died. He was a husband and father of four. He had apparently been battling cancer for quite a while. Finally, Allah's decree of the disease won the battle. May Allah shed His mercy upon him.
There is no doubt that he will be missed by many. Although there are several uncles and even their grandfathers present in the children's lives, still there is no replacement for their father. A person may have many children or re-marry any number of times, but we all –regardless of our ages and stage in life-have only one father and one mother. Whenever we may lose either of those parents, there is no chance of replacement.
Yet no matter how hard it is for one to lose either of the parents, still I believe something that is more difficult to deal with in patience is the loss of a child.
As I visited with the family in my humble effort to join them in their sorrow and to gently remind them to remember Allah and be patient, I was touched by the extreme patience and perseverance I recognized in the mother of the deceased. Although she was not adorned with the kohl eyeliner, still her appearance was extremely neat and groomed. And it was not necessarily her neatness which caught my eye so much as the appearance of her eyes-very little, if any at all, residue or evidence of crying. Her countenance was, of course, of serious nature-but obviously not teary-eyed. As new visitors came in, some would make purposeful extensions of remembrance of the deceased and reminding the mother and all others of this natural course in life that we must all eventually take. They would also voice reminders of the importance of patience at such times. Most generally, the mother would simply reply in a tearless
agreement to their statements, and perhaps she would also express praises and thanks to Allah.
Upon conversing with one of the daughters-in-law of the household, I learned that this stance of the mother was not merely a front for the visiting public. Rather, she was this same pillar of strength for the whole family even behind closed doors and away from the on-looking visitors. Whenever she would notice some of the younger ones crying, she would reprimand them-reminding that his death was a mercy from Allah in that he had suffered much from the disease. And she would continue on to remind them that even if not for his suffering, still this was the plan and desire of Allah to take him at this time, so they must all be thankful to Him for all things.
Even in her most private of moments when she was in prayer to the Creator, she was reportedly ever patient, and in true form of a faithful slave-calling out to Allah to shed His mercy upon her beloved son.
Such utter patience at a time of great calamity! Surely, the greatest pain any mother can endure is the loss of a child. Yet, this woman shows us great strength and love for Allah through her patience and seeking perseverance through prayer.
We are taught by the Islamic teachings that the test for patience is at the time of the onset of the calamity, not at a later time. It is easy for all of us, although still painful, to awaken a bit later after the onset of the calamity and then gather our senses towards a patient acceptance of the reality of the loss. But the test for us is at the onset of the calamity-to be patient and accepting of Allah's decree and worship Him with remembrance of Him and thanks to Him.
Verily, we come from Allah and to Him is our return.
I pray that we can all find the strength to be patient whenever we are faced with the onset of a calamity.
'TIS THE SEASON
'TIS THE SEASON…OF SACRIFICE!!
Once again, the magnificient, truly mind-boggling and utterly beautiful, ancient season of haj is upon us. Mind-boggling in that so many Muslims literally from all corners and cracks of the world gather together in this one spot at one time, for the sole purpose of worshipping their Creator. And beautiful in that this once-a-year procession demonstrates so vividly the possibility of unity and harmony of mankind.
To the modern-day Muslims, the haj is basically an exercise in worship by imitating the traditional rituals that our father Ibrahim, A.S.(Abraham) himself performed.
But to mankind in general, and the history of mankind, as well as creation as a whole, it has a more vast and far-reaching meaning.
The haj itself entails the necessity of the individual to embark on this venture, leaving behind all his/her worldly affairs for the time, in order to present himself/herself at the required spots on the required times.
The pilgrim needs to travel to Makkah, perform the circumambulation round the kaaba; walk/run between the hillocks Safa and Marwa; stand (i.e. be present) at the plains region of Arafat on the Day of Arafat; camp out that night at Mizdelifa; campt for 2-3 nights at Mina; and then perform once again the circumambulation round the kaaba. As well as offering the sacrificial animal, for those who it is incumbent upon, and throwing the pebbles at the assigned stations on the assigned days.
Of these deeds and rituals, the most important aspect is the presence of the hopeful hajji at the Arafat plains region on the Day of Arafat. As has been recorded in various ahadith, the prophet(SAAW) mentioned: the haj IS Arafat. Thereby indicating the jurisdiction that for those not present within the boundaries of the Arafat plains sometime before sunset on the Day of Arafat, then they have not attained the performance of the haj. Even thought they may attend to all other rituals of the haj. Without the presence at Arafat at the right time, there is no haj.
And although many people prefer to term this presence at Arafat as 'standing at Arafat', it is quite acceptable that the people may sit (whether on chairs, the ground, or even their vehicles), or even lay down for a time.
And it is also fine and acceptable that those present at Arafat take a meal, and drink to their satisfaction during their stay. In fact, as according to the prophet's saying, those present at Arafat on the Day of Arafat, are not to fast. It is a sufficient form of worship that they are present at Arafat for that holy, important, day.
Allah (SWT) has told us, in His Book, that He has created us for nothing other than worshipping Him. And although there are many pleasing aspects of this life within the realm of the permissible and legal status, we should not let those worldly pleasures distract us from what He has created us for, and that is to worship Him.
The observance of the haj, or the participation in the haj, is one of the five pillars of Islam. And although it is required of a Muslim only once in his/her life (as per the individual's ability to meet the requirements/qualifications for it), it is considered highly as the culmination or high peek of status of worship. This is basically due to the sacrificial nature of and surrounding the haj and it's season. Even for those Muslims not attending the haj, there is still the high value of sacrifice surrounding this season.
One of the important traditional practices associated with the haj is the offering of the sacrificial animal. Before proceeding, we should remember that Allah(SWT) has told us that it is not the blood of the sacrifice, nor the meat, which reaches Him. Nor is He in need of that blood or meat. But it is the piety of the worshipper offering the sacrifice in His name, which is the benefit and goal of the whole act.
The tradition of offering the sacrificial animal began with Ibrahim, A.S. He received a vision, which he correctly understood to be a divine directive, to sacrifice his own beloved son.
To better understand the value and importance of this act, we should think in more detail of the particulars in relation to the situation.
Up until this time, his wife was barren. In other words, he had no children as of yet. He and his wife both were getting on in years, so naturally, the natural hope of them having children dwindled as their ages rose.
Along their travels through the earth, Ibrahim and his wife Sarah passed through Egypt for a time. And upon their exit from Egypt, the king of Egypt presented Sarah with a slave girl as a gift for her. Sarah in turn offered this very same slave girl to her beloved husband. Ibrahim did not reject, and so he co-habited with Hagar (the slave girl) as well as with his wife Sarah.
When it became known that Hagar was pregnant, Sarah could no longer contain her jealousy. It was one thing for her to know of and even witness her beloved husband with another woman. But to realize that this other woman should be blessed with child while she remained barren, this was too much for her to bear.
And so, at Sarah's insistence, Ibrahim, A.S., took Hagar and her infant son, Ismael, to the desert valley region which we know as Makkah today. But at that time, it was not only desert, it was virtually deserted as well, excepting for the tribes of the surrounding region and the traders who occasionally crossed the paths of this region in their travels from Yemen in the south to Syria in the north and back.
As Ibrahim turned to leave his fostering family behind, Hagar naturally made a pleading move in questioning objection to this turn of fate. And when Ibrahim made no reply, but rather silently and determinedly moved along his way, she realized that this was of divine decree. So, she, in turn, became resolved in peace to the fate encrued upon herself and her beloved infant son. It was shortly after this, that her desperate search for water became the source of the traditional practice of the 'saiee' (running/walking) between the two hillocks of Safa and Marwa. And the greatest blessing out of this one event itself is the still-vibrant and productive well of the zam-zam water. For it sprout out of the ground as the crying baby Ismael pounded his heels to the ground during his crying.
As Ibrahim left his family behind, he supplicated Allah the Almighty to protect and provide for his family, which He evidently did. Ibrahim returned to visit them years later, when the lad was approaching adolescence. He had received a vision that he was to offer in sacrifice, his precious first-born, who was until now his only son. Making him even more so precious. Yet even if a person has many children, all are precious in their own right.
He informed his beloved son, who was still essentially a child even by standards of that time, of the vision which he understood and took seriously as divine decree, thereby necessitating it's obedience. Yet this foresighted and truly amazingly patient child, rather than crying out of fright, simply replied with the greatest of trust to his father: 'O father! Do as you deem the right thing. And you will find me in patient obedience.'
Such an honorable way to respond for this child, who was destined to be a prophet as well, not only the son of a prophet!!
So, Ibrahim took his son out a ways from the people, and proceeded in his preparations to sacrifice his first-born, as yet his only-born. He even made measure to instruct his son to face downwards so that he need not look into his son's face as he did the act.
As his truly razor-sharp knife was lowering on Ismael's throat, a beautiful ram appeared from utterly no where. And Ibrahim was immediately divinely informed that this ram was sent to him by divine order as the replacement for his son. Such a great and blessed replacement indeed!!
Hence, Ibrahim proceeded almost immediately, out of joy, relief, and thanks for Allah's blessing and mercy, to sacrifice this beautiful animal. And in doing so, Ibrahim was divinely informed that he had fulfilled the covenant and passed the important test that was presented to him.
In the end, he did not sacrifice his own son, killing him with his own hands, but a ram instead. But it was as if he had truly sacrificed him, for he proceeded steadfastly every step of the way in progression towards that goal. And Allah, in His everlasting and all-encompassing mercy, sent to Ibrahim the gift of the ram instead. Providing for him a way out, that he may retain his beloved son, while at the same time, and more importantly, fulfilling Allah's command to offer the sacrifice
To this day, whether attending the haj themselves, or remaining in their homes across the globe, Muslims celebrate the remembrance of this ordeal by offering their own sacrificial animal. And they give thanks to Allah for the uncountable blessings He has bestowed upon us all.
Ibrahim passed the test. He was truly willing to sacrifice that which he was commanded to. That which was perhaps the most dear to him in his life.
Are you ready truly to sacrifice for Allah when the time comes? Will you pass the test?!
Prepare yourselves always for the test. Seek Allah's help and strength. It surely will not be easy, as it was not easy for Ibrahim nor for Ismael.
'Tis the season…for sacrifice.
For the true believers, that is year round, not merely seasonable. So let's work to be classified among the true believers, and take the important lessons to be had of this holy season, and apply it to the rest of our lives the whole year through!!
Once again, the magnificient, truly mind-boggling and utterly beautiful, ancient season of haj is upon us. Mind-boggling in that so many Muslims literally from all corners and cracks of the world gather together in this one spot at one time, for the sole purpose of worshipping their Creator. And beautiful in that this once-a-year procession demonstrates so vividly the possibility of unity and harmony of mankind.
To the modern-day Muslims, the haj is basically an exercise in worship by imitating the traditional rituals that our father Ibrahim, A.S.(Abraham) himself performed.
But to mankind in general, and the history of mankind, as well as creation as a whole, it has a more vast and far-reaching meaning.
The haj itself entails the necessity of the individual to embark on this venture, leaving behind all his/her worldly affairs for the time, in order to present himself/herself at the required spots on the required times.
The pilgrim needs to travel to Makkah, perform the circumambulation round the kaaba; walk/run between the hillocks Safa and Marwa; stand (i.e. be present) at the plains region of Arafat on the Day of Arafat; camp out that night at Mizdelifa; campt for 2-3 nights at Mina; and then perform once again the circumambulation round the kaaba. As well as offering the sacrificial animal, for those who it is incumbent upon, and throwing the pebbles at the assigned stations on the assigned days.
Of these deeds and rituals, the most important aspect is the presence of the hopeful hajji at the Arafat plains region on the Day of Arafat. As has been recorded in various ahadith, the prophet(SAAW) mentioned: the haj IS Arafat. Thereby indicating the jurisdiction that for those not present within the boundaries of the Arafat plains sometime before sunset on the Day of Arafat, then they have not attained the performance of the haj. Even thought they may attend to all other rituals of the haj. Without the presence at Arafat at the right time, there is no haj.
And although many people prefer to term this presence at Arafat as 'standing at Arafat', it is quite acceptable that the people may sit (whether on chairs, the ground, or even their vehicles), or even lay down for a time.
And it is also fine and acceptable that those present at Arafat take a meal, and drink to their satisfaction during their stay. In fact, as according to the prophet's saying, those present at Arafat on the Day of Arafat, are not to fast. It is a sufficient form of worship that they are present at Arafat for that holy, important, day.
Allah (SWT) has told us, in His Book, that He has created us for nothing other than worshipping Him. And although there are many pleasing aspects of this life within the realm of the permissible and legal status, we should not let those worldly pleasures distract us from what He has created us for, and that is to worship Him.
The observance of the haj, or the participation in the haj, is one of the five pillars of Islam. And although it is required of a Muslim only once in his/her life (as per the individual's ability to meet the requirements/qualifications for it), it is considered highly as the culmination or high peek of status of worship. This is basically due to the sacrificial nature of and surrounding the haj and it's season. Even for those Muslims not attending the haj, there is still the high value of sacrifice surrounding this season.
One of the important traditional practices associated with the haj is the offering of the sacrificial animal. Before proceeding, we should remember that Allah(SWT) has told us that it is not the blood of the sacrifice, nor the meat, which reaches Him. Nor is He in need of that blood or meat. But it is the piety of the worshipper offering the sacrifice in His name, which is the benefit and goal of the whole act.
The tradition of offering the sacrificial animal began with Ibrahim, A.S. He received a vision, which he correctly understood to be a divine directive, to sacrifice his own beloved son.
To better understand the value and importance of this act, we should think in more detail of the particulars in relation to the situation.
Up until this time, his wife was barren. In other words, he had no children as of yet. He and his wife both were getting on in years, so naturally, the natural hope of them having children dwindled as their ages rose.
Along their travels through the earth, Ibrahim and his wife Sarah passed through Egypt for a time. And upon their exit from Egypt, the king of Egypt presented Sarah with a slave girl as a gift for her. Sarah in turn offered this very same slave girl to her beloved husband. Ibrahim did not reject, and so he co-habited with Hagar (the slave girl) as well as with his wife Sarah.
When it became known that Hagar was pregnant, Sarah could no longer contain her jealousy. It was one thing for her to know of and even witness her beloved husband with another woman. But to realize that this other woman should be blessed with child while she remained barren, this was too much for her to bear.
And so, at Sarah's insistence, Ibrahim, A.S., took Hagar and her infant son, Ismael, to the desert valley region which we know as Makkah today. But at that time, it was not only desert, it was virtually deserted as well, excepting for the tribes of the surrounding region and the traders who occasionally crossed the paths of this region in their travels from Yemen in the south to Syria in the north and back.
As Ibrahim turned to leave his fostering family behind, Hagar naturally made a pleading move in questioning objection to this turn of fate. And when Ibrahim made no reply, but rather silently and determinedly moved along his way, she realized that this was of divine decree. So, she, in turn, became resolved in peace to the fate encrued upon herself and her beloved infant son. It was shortly after this, that her desperate search for water became the source of the traditional practice of the 'saiee' (running/walking) between the two hillocks of Safa and Marwa. And the greatest blessing out of this one event itself is the still-vibrant and productive well of the zam-zam water. For it sprout out of the ground as the crying baby Ismael pounded his heels to the ground during his crying.
As Ibrahim left his family behind, he supplicated Allah the Almighty to protect and provide for his family, which He evidently did. Ibrahim returned to visit them years later, when the lad was approaching adolescence. He had received a vision that he was to offer in sacrifice, his precious first-born, who was until now his only son. Making him even more so precious. Yet even if a person has many children, all are precious in their own right.
He informed his beloved son, who was still essentially a child even by standards of that time, of the vision which he understood and took seriously as divine decree, thereby necessitating it's obedience. Yet this foresighted and truly amazingly patient child, rather than crying out of fright, simply replied with the greatest of trust to his father: 'O father! Do as you deem the right thing. And you will find me in patient obedience.'
Such an honorable way to respond for this child, who was destined to be a prophet as well, not only the son of a prophet!!
So, Ibrahim took his son out a ways from the people, and proceeded in his preparations to sacrifice his first-born, as yet his only-born. He even made measure to instruct his son to face downwards so that he need not look into his son's face as he did the act.
As his truly razor-sharp knife was lowering on Ismael's throat, a beautiful ram appeared from utterly no where. And Ibrahim was immediately divinely informed that this ram was sent to him by divine order as the replacement for his son. Such a great and blessed replacement indeed!!
Hence, Ibrahim proceeded almost immediately, out of joy, relief, and thanks for Allah's blessing and mercy, to sacrifice this beautiful animal. And in doing so, Ibrahim was divinely informed that he had fulfilled the covenant and passed the important test that was presented to him.
In the end, he did not sacrifice his own son, killing him with his own hands, but a ram instead. But it was as if he had truly sacrificed him, for he proceeded steadfastly every step of the way in progression towards that goal. And Allah, in His everlasting and all-encompassing mercy, sent to Ibrahim the gift of the ram instead. Providing for him a way out, that he may retain his beloved son, while at the same time, and more importantly, fulfilling Allah's command to offer the sacrifice
To this day, whether attending the haj themselves, or remaining in their homes across the globe, Muslims celebrate the remembrance of this ordeal by offering their own sacrificial animal. And they give thanks to Allah for the uncountable blessings He has bestowed upon us all.
Ibrahim passed the test. He was truly willing to sacrifice that which he was commanded to. That which was perhaps the most dear to him in his life.
Are you ready truly to sacrifice for Allah when the time comes? Will you pass the test?!
Prepare yourselves always for the test. Seek Allah's help and strength. It surely will not be easy, as it was not easy for Ibrahim nor for Ismael.
'Tis the season…for sacrifice.
For the true believers, that is year round, not merely seasonable. So let's work to be classified among the true believers, and take the important lessons to be had of this holy season, and apply it to the rest of our lives the whole year through!!
THE SUCCESSFUL WINNERS
THE SUCCESSFUL WINNERS
Ah, the blessed holy month of Ramadhan is now past. Yet another year has trickled by us. And it is time now that we all reflect upon this past month, and examine for ourselves-asking truthfully-what-if anything-have we gained out of this ever-important training period?
In the Arab world, there is a common jingle of greeting that is frequently broadcast on the television and radio channels. It is quite a short and simple tune-yet quite rich and deep in it's meaning. The Arabic words go like this: 'Wa min al-Eideen, wa min al-faizeen, inshaAllah'. And it is repeated throughout the days of the Eid on various broadcastings. And you will find this phrase a common greeting among the people as they greet each other in the celebration of the holiday. The meaning is quite touching: 'May you be of those who live to witness another Eid, may you be of the winners, by the will of Allah'. A beautiful sentiment indeed to greet your fellow brethren with.
It is quite simple to understand the first portion of this greeting, for it is quite obviously self-explanatory. 'May you be blessed to witness another Eid'. It is a supplication to Allah to grant you more life to live to witness yet another Eid. A tender and touching supplication asking Allah to grant the person (whom you are greeting) to mercifully grant them more time in order to more sincerely repent for their sins, and more time to do more for the sake of Allah, seeking His pleasure and reward with Him.
The second portion of this greeting is a little more deep in it's meaning. The words themselves are quite simple and clear: 'May you be of the winners (or the successful)'. And as goes in the song as broadcast, a chorus of different voices follow up with 'inshaAllah'. We all are quite familiar with the phrase 'inshaAllah', which means 'God willing'. But as for the phrase: 'may you be of the winners (or the successful), it is a common greeting and supplication repeated much throughout the days of Ramadhan and increasing in the people's repetition of it as Ramadhan comes to a close, and throughout the days of the Eid. It is a supplication in which we ask Allah for success in our efforts of worshipping Him through the month of fasting. And a manner by which we ask of Him the ultimate blessing of attaining His pleasure by having our meager deeds accepted, and hence becoming a member of the exclusive club of the winners-one of those preciously and divinely blessed souls which attain the blessed abode of the eternal bless of Heaven. Surely, that is the ultimate goal of success and winning. That is the ultimate and beautiful description of 'fa'iz'.
So it is with this humble attempt to explain to all reading of this common and short yet potent Arabic phrase, that I myself greet all at this opportune time of the celebration marking the closing of yet another blessed Ramadhan-May you be blessed to witness another Ramadhan and Eid, may you be blessed to be among the winners! InshaAllah! I greet you all from the deepest depths of my heart-min al-Eideen, wa min al-faizeen, inshaAllah.
May Allah grant you His mercy and guidance that your deeds of worship be accepted, and that your mistakes and sins be forgiven, and may you attain the much greater mercy of His pardon, by which all memory and record of any bad deeds are not only forgiven, but all traces erased!
May you and your loved ones be of the successful winners who have learned the important lessons to be had from this holy month. May you be of the winners who have learned the importance of self-discipline in all manners of your life and at all times-not only of abstention from food and sex in the daylight hours.
May you be of the successful winners who have learned the importance of reading the Quran daily throughout the year, and applying it's teaching in your day to day life. May you be of the successful winners who learn the Quran by heart and for whom the Quran will be a companion in the grave and a protection from Allah's anger.
May you be of the successful winners who succeed to instill in their children and all those with whom they come in contact the love for Allah and Islam, and the drive to help others.
May you be of the successful winners who will not forget and pass over the tender beauty of standing up in the late hours of the night in prayer, as the rest of the world sleeps, asking your Lord His forgiveness and pardon and mercy and blessings and guidance and much much more. May you be of the successful winners who will continue to practice the late night nafil prayers throughout the year.
May you be of the successful winners who will be blessed to witness yet another Ramadhan and Eid. May you be of the successful winners who will have the chance with more of this earthly life to repent to Allah and to do more for Him and His cause.
May you be of the successful winners who have learned a higher degree of patience so that if and/or whenever any trials come along your way, you will be patient at it's onset, so that you will attain great reward from Allah for that patience, as He has promised.
May you be of the successful winners for whom the prayer is not a chore, but a blessing from which they desire never to part.
May you be of the successful winners who devote their lives and their energies to working for the cause of Allah always.
May you be of the successful winners who concentrate consistently upon worshipping purely for the sake of pleasing Allah, and not to be seen by their fellow man.
May you be of the successful winners whose sincerity is sure and deep and for Allah alone.
May you be of the successful winners whose ultimate abode is paradise, the upper level of firdaus, and who are blessed to ultimately witness Allah.
And I humbly ask all reading to please not forget this humble sister of yours from your prayers as well. For verily, I am also in dire need of your prayers and in need of Allah's mercy and generosity!
May we all be of the successful winners! Ameen!
Ah, the blessed holy month of Ramadhan is now past. Yet another year has trickled by us. And it is time now that we all reflect upon this past month, and examine for ourselves-asking truthfully-what-if anything-have we gained out of this ever-important training period?
In the Arab world, there is a common jingle of greeting that is frequently broadcast on the television and radio channels. It is quite a short and simple tune-yet quite rich and deep in it's meaning. The Arabic words go like this: 'Wa min al-Eideen, wa min al-faizeen, inshaAllah'. And it is repeated throughout the days of the Eid on various broadcastings. And you will find this phrase a common greeting among the people as they greet each other in the celebration of the holiday. The meaning is quite touching: 'May you be of those who live to witness another Eid, may you be of the winners, by the will of Allah'. A beautiful sentiment indeed to greet your fellow brethren with.
It is quite simple to understand the first portion of this greeting, for it is quite obviously self-explanatory. 'May you be blessed to witness another Eid'. It is a supplication to Allah to grant you more life to live to witness yet another Eid. A tender and touching supplication asking Allah to grant the person (whom you are greeting) to mercifully grant them more time in order to more sincerely repent for their sins, and more time to do more for the sake of Allah, seeking His pleasure and reward with Him.
The second portion of this greeting is a little more deep in it's meaning. The words themselves are quite simple and clear: 'May you be of the winners (or the successful)'. And as goes in the song as broadcast, a chorus of different voices follow up with 'inshaAllah'. We all are quite familiar with the phrase 'inshaAllah', which means 'God willing'. But as for the phrase: 'may you be of the winners (or the successful), it is a common greeting and supplication repeated much throughout the days of Ramadhan and increasing in the people's repetition of it as Ramadhan comes to a close, and throughout the days of the Eid. It is a supplication in which we ask Allah for success in our efforts of worshipping Him through the month of fasting. And a manner by which we ask of Him the ultimate blessing of attaining His pleasure by having our meager deeds accepted, and hence becoming a member of the exclusive club of the winners-one of those preciously and divinely blessed souls which attain the blessed abode of the eternal bless of Heaven. Surely, that is the ultimate goal of success and winning. That is the ultimate and beautiful description of 'fa'iz'.
So it is with this humble attempt to explain to all reading of this common and short yet potent Arabic phrase, that I myself greet all at this opportune time of the celebration marking the closing of yet another blessed Ramadhan-May you be blessed to witness another Ramadhan and Eid, may you be blessed to be among the winners! InshaAllah! I greet you all from the deepest depths of my heart-min al-Eideen, wa min al-faizeen, inshaAllah.
May Allah grant you His mercy and guidance that your deeds of worship be accepted, and that your mistakes and sins be forgiven, and may you attain the much greater mercy of His pardon, by which all memory and record of any bad deeds are not only forgiven, but all traces erased!
May you and your loved ones be of the successful winners who have learned the important lessons to be had from this holy month. May you be of the winners who have learned the importance of self-discipline in all manners of your life and at all times-not only of abstention from food and sex in the daylight hours.
May you be of the successful winners who have learned the importance of reading the Quran daily throughout the year, and applying it's teaching in your day to day life. May you be of the successful winners who learn the Quran by heart and for whom the Quran will be a companion in the grave and a protection from Allah's anger.
May you be of the successful winners who succeed to instill in their children and all those with whom they come in contact the love for Allah and Islam, and the drive to help others.
May you be of the successful winners who will not forget and pass over the tender beauty of standing up in the late hours of the night in prayer, as the rest of the world sleeps, asking your Lord His forgiveness and pardon and mercy and blessings and guidance and much much more. May you be of the successful winners who will continue to practice the late night nafil prayers throughout the year.
May you be of the successful winners who will be blessed to witness yet another Ramadhan and Eid. May you be of the successful winners who will have the chance with more of this earthly life to repent to Allah and to do more for Him and His cause.
May you be of the successful winners who have learned a higher degree of patience so that if and/or whenever any trials come along your way, you will be patient at it's onset, so that you will attain great reward from Allah for that patience, as He has promised.
May you be of the successful winners for whom the prayer is not a chore, but a blessing from which they desire never to part.
May you be of the successful winners who devote their lives and their energies to working for the cause of Allah always.
May you be of the successful winners who concentrate consistently upon worshipping purely for the sake of pleasing Allah, and not to be seen by their fellow man.
May you be of the successful winners whose sincerity is sure and deep and for Allah alone.
May you be of the successful winners whose ultimate abode is paradise, the upper level of firdaus, and who are blessed to ultimately witness Allah.
And I humbly ask all reading to please not forget this humble sister of yours from your prayers as well. For verily, I am also in dire need of your prayers and in need of Allah's mercy and generosity!
May we all be of the successful winners! Ameen!
THE REPORT CARD
THE REPORT CARD
It's that time of year again. The spring frosts are over. The blossoms and fruits of the new season are all blooming and growing. The major wedding season of the year is once again creeping upon us. Students of all levels are in a feverish preparation and cramming review in anticipation of the final exams of the school year.
The long break of the summer is almost here!!
We all look forward to summer vacation. As students, it was a well-deserved break after a year (the school year being in all actuality only 9 months) of hard-and much of the time-monotonous work. And now, as parents of the newer batch of students, we also look forward to the summer in grand anticipation as a break from the tug-of-war job of waking unresponding adolescents in the mornings, and constant reminding and nagging for them to study in the evenings.
For all the generations concerned-parents and children alike-the summer break is a well-deserved vacation. The icing on the cake after a year of long and hard work.
And a very famous precept as to the quality of enjoyment of that hard-earned vacation is the end-of-the-year report card. The final accumulative results of the whole previous year's school work is the grand opener to set the mood for the upcoming months of the summer vacation.
If the scores are good, then everyone is happy, and summer vacation kicks off with a bang. But if the scores are poor, then that sets the atmosphere for tension, anger, and the promising threat of the onslaught of punishment of some sort.
But forget about school for a moment. Let's look at the much wider and excessively more serious picture of life and our relationship to the Creator.
He has given us a Book of Directive Guidance. He has mercifully sent to us fine exemplary role models in the long historical procession of prophets and messengers. And we ourselves pass through an ongoing test. This whole earthly life is merely a grand succession of tests.
And so what will our final grade be?
On that infamous Day to come-do you suspect you will be handed your report in your left hand or the right? Do you suppose you will be presented with the report in front of you or behind your back?
On that Day of Reckoning, there will be no chance to return to re-do things. Nor will there be a second chance for a re-make on any of the tests. Nor will there be any cheating on the resulting grades. What you will see of the results will be your fair share of what you deserve in accordance with your performance in this life.
Prepare yourselves well, my dearly beloved brethren! In this day and age, with the grand advantages we have to achieve knowledge and awareness, there is little excuse for not knowing the truth and the guidance. Seek out, learn, and then implement that Divine Guidance. It is within easy and affordable reach of us all, if only we will make the effort.
Make the best use of the time and blessings and forturne you have been granted in this life. Seek Allah's help, His guidance, and His protection from Satan, deviation, and laziness. And pray for His mercy that you will find solace and promise in a good passing report, in order that your eternity shall be spent in happiness and tranquility.
It's that time of year again. The spring frosts are over. The blossoms and fruits of the new season are all blooming and growing. The major wedding season of the year is once again creeping upon us. Students of all levels are in a feverish preparation and cramming review in anticipation of the final exams of the school year.
The long break of the summer is almost here!!
We all look forward to summer vacation. As students, it was a well-deserved break after a year (the school year being in all actuality only 9 months) of hard-and much of the time-monotonous work. And now, as parents of the newer batch of students, we also look forward to the summer in grand anticipation as a break from the tug-of-war job of waking unresponding adolescents in the mornings, and constant reminding and nagging for them to study in the evenings.
For all the generations concerned-parents and children alike-the summer break is a well-deserved vacation. The icing on the cake after a year of long and hard work.
And a very famous precept as to the quality of enjoyment of that hard-earned vacation is the end-of-the-year report card. The final accumulative results of the whole previous year's school work is the grand opener to set the mood for the upcoming months of the summer vacation.
If the scores are good, then everyone is happy, and summer vacation kicks off with a bang. But if the scores are poor, then that sets the atmosphere for tension, anger, and the promising threat of the onslaught of punishment of some sort.
But forget about school for a moment. Let's look at the much wider and excessively more serious picture of life and our relationship to the Creator.
He has given us a Book of Directive Guidance. He has mercifully sent to us fine exemplary role models in the long historical procession of prophets and messengers. And we ourselves pass through an ongoing test. This whole earthly life is merely a grand succession of tests.
And so what will our final grade be?
On that infamous Day to come-do you suspect you will be handed your report in your left hand or the right? Do you suppose you will be presented with the report in front of you or behind your back?
On that Day of Reckoning, there will be no chance to return to re-do things. Nor will there be a second chance for a re-make on any of the tests. Nor will there be any cheating on the resulting grades. What you will see of the results will be your fair share of what you deserve in accordance with your performance in this life.
Prepare yourselves well, my dearly beloved brethren! In this day and age, with the grand advantages we have to achieve knowledge and awareness, there is little excuse for not knowing the truth and the guidance. Seek out, learn, and then implement that Divine Guidance. It is within easy and affordable reach of us all, if only we will make the effort.
Make the best use of the time and blessings and forturne you have been granted in this life. Seek Allah's help, His guidance, and His protection from Satan, deviation, and laziness. And pray for His mercy that you will find solace and promise in a good passing report, in order that your eternity shall be spent in happiness and tranquility.
THE INFERIORITY COMPLEX
THE INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Ever have that awful feeling of inferiority to those around you? It is quite common to so many of us at least once in our lives. That sense that you are an under-achiever in the midst of a group-regardless how large or small-of truly marathon achievers. Successful people, professionals at whatever it is that they do.
Not that I have necessarily grown into a fat-head about myself any my meager achievements in my adult years-still it has been more or less a lifetime since I have had that gut-wrenching feeling of extreme inferiority in any group setting.
Perhaps it was a good humbling experience. Or at least a wake-up all to my inner self to vividly remind me that I still have much work yet to do if I really wish to make my mark remain on this world and to give some real substantial value to my life.
I am essentially an alien in a life and society that is basically as alien to me as I am to it. But in spite of the natural born alienity, I have grown into the Arab life and society as much as it has grown onto me. Although born to and raised by Americans with no Arab roots nor blood-still I have become so innately Arab not only by association of marriage and acquired nationality, but also by the fact of my inclination towards the Arab nation due to my Islamic beliefs-seeing as how the desert of Arabia is the birthplace of Islam.
And even though I am obviously an alien in this society in more ways than one-still I have become more or less a 'celebrity-type' alien, you might say. I only use the term 'celebrity' for lack of better and more tasteful a term. By this term I mean that I am rather well-known-if not first hand, then by word of mouth-in this rather tight little community.
In the larger more metropolitan cities of Riyadh, Jeddah, and Dammam, the presence of a westerner in the midst of Arabs is not so uncommon. Nor is it really in our region of the south-Assir-at least not so in professional circles such as the health care sector, etc. But even in the view of the fast development of this region and it's growing modernistic trends, still this particular region of Arabia holds fast to it's original puristic Arab roots and associated traditions. So to see an American who has not only converted to Islam and marry into one of the local tribes, but who has as well not only adapted to but has also blended into the fabric of this society, is a note-worthy thing indeed. Hence the simile of the 'celebrity' status.
I have been blessed to have the ability and conviction to adapt myself to this society in all possible mannerisms to the extent that the only true revealing things about myself are those things I cannot change-namely my skin tone, and my height. Other than that, and my family name, of course, there is little to notify any stranger that I was not born and raised in this society. There have been many occasions when I have succeeded in fooling even the most savvy of Arabs into thinking-although admittedly questioningly-that I am also naturally an Arab.
Now, back to the topic at hand-achievement and under-achievers. Which one do I fit into? I guess it depends upon which vantage point you are looking from, and what determining factor is the subject of the achievement. Kind of like the phrase 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. For depending upon the topic of the scale, I can easily fit into either group-perhaps much as nearly any person of this world.
There I was-exepting for my husband and my son-sitting in a room full of strangers. And each one of them-my husband included-was not only an achiever, but an expert in his/her field. ( I have excluded my son out of this description basically because he has not yet finished his college time nor has he entered into the work force to determine his own field of expertise.) True professional to the letter of description. And it was humble lil' ol' me-the muslimah completely covered, the housewife, the mother and grandmother, the college-drop-out, the alien who has adapted to life in the muslim world-who was the center of their attention, their filming, their eventually-to-be-internationally-broadcast interview. Rather a sense of overwhelm engulfed me, to say the least.
I mean, what of my life's story could possibly be so interesting to captivate these people's audience and a future international audience of countless many? The fact that I was attracted enough to Islam to literally leave the only world and family I had known since birth to embark on the adventure of carving out a new life and world for myself? Or perhaps it was my choice in changing my name? or perhaps it was to learn that although differences are notably present in both societies (American vs. Saudi) that the change did not phase me? Or perhaps it was to learn that even though I'm a stay-at-home wife, dress in full hijab, don't drive, etc.-still I feel I have all the freedoms in the world? Or perhaps it was to learn that I'm not judgemental about the muslims who are not so strict as I am in their practice?
To tell the truth, I was rather nervous for the interview. And while sitting there and then afterwards as well, I thought about the whole thing, and felt rather small in the midst of all those professionals who were focusing their attentions on me. But then I came to realize something else as well…I'm not really an under-achiever after all. There is always room for improvement, which I hope, with the help of Allah, to accomplish eventually. But I am certainly no under-achiever.
Perhaps I don't have a college degree under my belt. And I don't travel unless I have at least my husband or one of my sons along with me. And I don't drive nor even will I ride in a taxi alone. Nor do I study or work outside the home. And I cover in complete hijab when I go outside my home. But those are my choices as a free woman.
And so-as I said-I have come to realize I'm not an under-achiever after all. Why, I'm a Muslim convert from Christianity. I've learned how to pray the Muslim prayer, and many other things important for a Muslim to implement Islam into daily life. I've learned how to read, write, speak and understand Arabic. Not a simple task indeed. I've borne and raised 3 lovely children into fine adults-all practicing Muslims themselves. And I have also been blessed with 4 adorable grandsons-who I have a part in their training as well. On the home front, I've developed into a rather proficient cook, helping my husband promote himself in many business circles by entertaining much through the years. Many a business deal was either attained or attracted or realized over our dinner tables. I've also pushed myself, with much yearning, to learn more of Islam from the sources-not only to enrich my own life and that of my family's-but reaching out world wide over the internet-helping fellow Muslims to better learn their religion as well as helping some non-Muslims come to Islam.
And my work is not yet done. In fact, I feel I've just begun.
Another interview anyone?
Perhaps I'll do better next time. For I've come to the realization-I'm not an under-achiever.
By the grace of Allah, and with His Divine help, I've accomplished much. Much more yet to do, of course. But I have been blessed to accomplish much in my life so far, and hopefully more yet to come. My degree? Why-of course!! A PhD in mothering, general teaching & coaching, with an accompanying MS in the field of wifery and all that is associated to it. I'm still working on my doctorate on that one.
My profession? You guessed it! None other than a professional wife/mother/grandmother!! And quite a satisfied one, at that.
Ever have that awful feeling of inferiority to those around you? It is quite common to so many of us at least once in our lives. That sense that you are an under-achiever in the midst of a group-regardless how large or small-of truly marathon achievers. Successful people, professionals at whatever it is that they do.
Not that I have necessarily grown into a fat-head about myself any my meager achievements in my adult years-still it has been more or less a lifetime since I have had that gut-wrenching feeling of extreme inferiority in any group setting.
Perhaps it was a good humbling experience. Or at least a wake-up all to my inner self to vividly remind me that I still have much work yet to do if I really wish to make my mark remain on this world and to give some real substantial value to my life.
I am essentially an alien in a life and society that is basically as alien to me as I am to it. But in spite of the natural born alienity, I have grown into the Arab life and society as much as it has grown onto me. Although born to and raised by Americans with no Arab roots nor blood-still I have become so innately Arab not only by association of marriage and acquired nationality, but also by the fact of my inclination towards the Arab nation due to my Islamic beliefs-seeing as how the desert of Arabia is the birthplace of Islam.
And even though I am obviously an alien in this society in more ways than one-still I have become more or less a 'celebrity-type' alien, you might say. I only use the term 'celebrity' for lack of better and more tasteful a term. By this term I mean that I am rather well-known-if not first hand, then by word of mouth-in this rather tight little community.
In the larger more metropolitan cities of Riyadh, Jeddah, and Dammam, the presence of a westerner in the midst of Arabs is not so uncommon. Nor is it really in our region of the south-Assir-at least not so in professional circles such as the health care sector, etc. But even in the view of the fast development of this region and it's growing modernistic trends, still this particular region of Arabia holds fast to it's original puristic Arab roots and associated traditions. So to see an American who has not only converted to Islam and marry into one of the local tribes, but who has as well not only adapted to but has also blended into the fabric of this society, is a note-worthy thing indeed. Hence the simile of the 'celebrity' status.
I have been blessed to have the ability and conviction to adapt myself to this society in all possible mannerisms to the extent that the only true revealing things about myself are those things I cannot change-namely my skin tone, and my height. Other than that, and my family name, of course, there is little to notify any stranger that I was not born and raised in this society. There have been many occasions when I have succeeded in fooling even the most savvy of Arabs into thinking-although admittedly questioningly-that I am also naturally an Arab.
Now, back to the topic at hand-achievement and under-achievers. Which one do I fit into? I guess it depends upon which vantage point you are looking from, and what determining factor is the subject of the achievement. Kind of like the phrase 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder'. For depending upon the topic of the scale, I can easily fit into either group-perhaps much as nearly any person of this world.
There I was-exepting for my husband and my son-sitting in a room full of strangers. And each one of them-my husband included-was not only an achiever, but an expert in his/her field. ( I have excluded my son out of this description basically because he has not yet finished his college time nor has he entered into the work force to determine his own field of expertise.) True professional to the letter of description. And it was humble lil' ol' me-the muslimah completely covered, the housewife, the mother and grandmother, the college-drop-out, the alien who has adapted to life in the muslim world-who was the center of their attention, their filming, their eventually-to-be-internationally-broadcast interview. Rather a sense of overwhelm engulfed me, to say the least.
I mean, what of my life's story could possibly be so interesting to captivate these people's audience and a future international audience of countless many? The fact that I was attracted enough to Islam to literally leave the only world and family I had known since birth to embark on the adventure of carving out a new life and world for myself? Or perhaps it was my choice in changing my name? or perhaps it was to learn that although differences are notably present in both societies (American vs. Saudi) that the change did not phase me? Or perhaps it was to learn that even though I'm a stay-at-home wife, dress in full hijab, don't drive, etc.-still I feel I have all the freedoms in the world? Or perhaps it was to learn that I'm not judgemental about the muslims who are not so strict as I am in their practice?
To tell the truth, I was rather nervous for the interview. And while sitting there and then afterwards as well, I thought about the whole thing, and felt rather small in the midst of all those professionals who were focusing their attentions on me. But then I came to realize something else as well…I'm not really an under-achiever after all. There is always room for improvement, which I hope, with the help of Allah, to accomplish eventually. But I am certainly no under-achiever.
Perhaps I don't have a college degree under my belt. And I don't travel unless I have at least my husband or one of my sons along with me. And I don't drive nor even will I ride in a taxi alone. Nor do I study or work outside the home. And I cover in complete hijab when I go outside my home. But those are my choices as a free woman.
And so-as I said-I have come to realize I'm not an under-achiever after all. Why, I'm a Muslim convert from Christianity. I've learned how to pray the Muslim prayer, and many other things important for a Muslim to implement Islam into daily life. I've learned how to read, write, speak and understand Arabic. Not a simple task indeed. I've borne and raised 3 lovely children into fine adults-all practicing Muslims themselves. And I have also been blessed with 4 adorable grandsons-who I have a part in their training as well. On the home front, I've developed into a rather proficient cook, helping my husband promote himself in many business circles by entertaining much through the years. Many a business deal was either attained or attracted or realized over our dinner tables. I've also pushed myself, with much yearning, to learn more of Islam from the sources-not only to enrich my own life and that of my family's-but reaching out world wide over the internet-helping fellow Muslims to better learn their religion as well as helping some non-Muslims come to Islam.
And my work is not yet done. In fact, I feel I've just begun.
Another interview anyone?
Perhaps I'll do better next time. For I've come to the realization-I'm not an under-achiever.
By the grace of Allah, and with His Divine help, I've accomplished much. Much more yet to do, of course. But I have been blessed to accomplish much in my life so far, and hopefully more yet to come. My degree? Why-of course!! A PhD in mothering, general teaching & coaching, with an accompanying MS in the field of wifery and all that is associated to it. I'm still working on my doctorate on that one.
My profession? You guessed it! None other than a professional wife/mother/grandmother!! And quite a satisfied one, at that.
THE HIJAB-WHAT IT IS AND HOW TO WEAR IT
THE HIJAB: An Explanatory of what it is
And how and why to wear it
It has become a trend quite evident in today's world that there is much question or controversy over the hijab, or the head-dress that the muslim women wear. The basic question is to it's validity as an obligation by muslim women to wear it. And the secondary question is whether or not they should follow this practice.
With the following report, I propose to explain the various forms of the hijab itself, and how it is worn, for those women desiring to wear it, but don't know exactly how to do so. And, to answer the questions by muslims and non-muslims alike as to the validity and necessity to wear the hijab, I shall present the reason for it and the proof that it is indeed an obligation upon each believing woman.
The head-dress covering for the female muslim, or the basic hijab, can come in several different styles of essence of make-up and basic design, each with it's own method of application to adorn. The hijab can easily be divided into 3 basic styles: the khimaar, the triangular scarf, and the elongated shawl-scarf.
Khimaar: This is most generally made up of one piece of cloth, cut in a large flowing circle and going on the bias of the cloth towards the outer circular edges. The upper portion, where there is the opening for the face, is naturally narrower so as to provide a close fit to hug the head and enclose to reveal only the face. The opening of the face is then closed tight either by fixed stitches or perhaps a snap or even a safety pit directly under the chin to ensure a tight fit around the face, preventing it from slipping off the head or revealing the neck and/or ears. The khimaar generally comes in two sizes-small and large. The small will most generally cover the head and heck area only-the end of the material hitting at the upper shoulder line. The more large and complete khimaar is as it's name designates-larger-and flows down on all sides, front, and back, covering the shoulders, chest, and arms-the edges of this garment most generally touch the wrist area, or for the smaller woman, will cover even her hands.
Sometimes it consists of two parts-a small fitted cap or tie-scarf to fit on the head as a cap, and the larger, more draping over-section of the khimaar itself.
To better understand the basic nature of the term 'khimaar', it may help to understand the language itself. 'Khimaar' is a resulting term coming from the root 'khaymah', which means tent. The term 'khimaar', then, refers to a tent-like garment or covering.
Triangular Scarf: This piece is usually of two variants. One is that it is merely a triangular cut, to be placed upon the head and then fixed either by tying or pin at the chin in front. The other variant is a piece of square cloth, to be folded over into a triangle and then fixed in similar fashion as described for the first variant.
For both variants of the triangular scarf, some women sometimes opt to tie it in the back, revealing their neck. With this method of application, only the hair is covered. And yet some women opt to fix it in the front under the chin, yet they tuck in all the remaining cloth into the neck region of their garment, merely only covering the neck and head in quite tight fitting material. In both cases, although this is a form of modesty, still it is not sufficient, for it is not a true covering, since it is in fact revealing, and Allah knows best.
Elongated Shawl-Scarf: This is a piece of cloth usually measuring 1 & 1/2 meters to 2 meters in length, and the width may vary anywhere from 1/2 meter to 1 meter. This style takes more practice and determination to learn to wear as well as to keep in place. But-if it is the wider variety-is more covering than that of the triangular shape.
To get the best final result in covering, it is best to begin with centering it upon your head, before wrapping around, off-centered rather than centered. By this, I mean that the center of it, length-wise, should not be at the center of the top of your head. Rather, it should be off-center, causing a longer tail of the shawl on either the right or the left side-whichever side it is more comfortable and adaptable for you to guide the scarf under your chin and then back up around your head, to fasten in of the remaining outer front edge into the front edge of the scarf that is framing your face (this 'fasten' should be somewhere on the side, approximately in the region of the ear). The other edge (width-wise) of the shawl should then lie flat and form a result of flowing to cover the neck, breasts, and shoulder areas, according to the size of the width of the shawl itself.
Remember that this type of hijab is easier and more frequent to losen off of your head, and so as a result, some women prefer to affix this hijab (as well as the triangular scarf) at it's point of closure (where the two overlapping sides meet and connect) with some sort of a fastener-such as a hair pin or perhaps a hat-pin type. It is most inconvenient, not to mention in opposition of the nature or ideal of the hijab itself, to have to be consistently re-doing your adornmnent of the hijab in public.
The above-mentioned are the basic three forms of hijab. Now, on to the niqab, or the face covering. The strict description of the niqab, as per Arabic language goes, is that it is a veil, or a face covering, which is affixed to the head in some format (such as tied in the back, or closed with a snap or velcroe, or attached via a stretch elastic strap, etc.). And, according to this definition, this type of face covering leaves a slit opening which reveals only the eyes. Depending upon the way the niqab is made, and how the individual wears it, the size of the slit may vary on person to person-some revealing more, while others less.
This niqab is most generally affixed and worn over the underlying hijab (scarf, shawl, or khimaar).
The abaya, or the outer 'over cloak' may take on several distinct designs. The basic two styles is that which is worn from the shoulders, and that which is worn from on top of the head.
For the type which is worn from the shoulders, there are basically two distinctive types. One is that of a more fitted cut, and therefore tight-fitting such as a coat. It may be very loose and flowing from the shoulders down to the floor-but it's very nature of the cut-design of the garment-that it has fitted shoulders, arm-holes and sleeves, makes it fitted and revealing in it's very nature. The second major style within this group of 'shoulder abayas' is that which it's cut is less definitive and fitting, and more square and open, as is the traditional abaya. With each of these abayas, and for any abaya worn on the shoulders, it is imperative that the hijab is worn over the abaya. This is to ensure that there is some fabric over flowing from the neck, shoulders, and chest region. If this shoulder abaya is worn on top of the hijab, with the hijab tucked inside of the neck opening (which, by the way, many women tend to wear it, sadly), that gives a more easy opportunity for onlookers to notice the size and proportions of the woman's upper body. And this is in defeat of the essential purpose of the hijab (in this essence, I mean the hijab of the complete covering-not just the piece of cloth worn on the head) altogether.
As for the abaya which is worn on the head, the basic cut and design of it is more full and flowing and loose-fitting than which is the type worn on the shoulders. This basically holds true even for the latest developments in some of the newer styles which are partially fitted for the shoulders and arms area. Some (the older fashions) of the abayas are completely open down the middle of the front, and only meet at the front, revealing the dress underneath. To cover herself well with such an abaya, the woman needs to manually or physically over wrap the two portions of the front and then hold it in place with her hands as she maneuvers about. Needless to say, the mere logistics of the design of this abaya, and it's lack of fastening to keep the front closed presents more difficulty for the womans as well as the high likelihood that as she moves about, there will inevitably come situations in which she won't be completely covered. The modern abayas of this style have small openings at either side where the natural point of exit for the hands comes. This development in itself is rather new, somewhere in the range of 15 years now. Previously, there was no such opening for the hands at the outer edges. If she wished to keep the abaya on her and to let it cover her in length, then she needed to keep her hands inside, holding the abaya together and on herself from within the inside, creating great difficulty in any maneuverings and interactions with others. Very difficult-if possible at all-to grab hold of a door handle or to handle merchandise or money in the market, etc. Double hard if she had to take care of or handle a child. In most cases, in those days, the women would bring the abaya together in the front at the waist region in over-lapping fashion, then she would flip the lower ends of the abaya over her forearms, bringing the lower edge up to her hips or mid-thighs in a rather hip-hugging fashion. This would serve a double purpose of keeping the abaya together in the front as well as the every important result of freeing up her hands for practical usage. But it would also then naturally reveal whatever dress or pants she was wearing under the abaya, as well as in it's resulting hip-hugging fashion, would of course drag every passerby's attention to her hips. Naturally, not a very good 'hijab' in the sense of covering, for it tends to attract more attention of onlookers rather than what it prevented.
Nowadays, the common form of the abaya worn on the head is one which provides rather wide sleeve-like apertures for the arms, and the two front sections are cut larger than what is needed to merely meet in the middle-rather, they overlap and are fixed to either side by fasteners and ties near the waist region. The under flap is affixed towards the one side by fasteners underneath (inside) and the upper flap is affixed to the other side by fasteners on the outside. Yet another form of abaya has developed-which has been dubbed the 'Islamic abaya'-it is either of one large tubular piece of cloth with opening for the face and neck, resting only on the top of the head (also, of course, openings at the sides for the hands); or perhaps originally open in the front but sewn a permanent seam down the front so as not to open, leaving only the opening for the head.
In each case of whatever style of the abaya chosen, the type that is worn on the head is the last thing to go on over the hijab and niqab. The middle section which lays on the top of the head normally falls about right in the middle of the top of the crown of the head.
Although this type of abaya is perhaps the best choice if one is desiring the most modest and complete form of covering, it is a bit more difficult to properly wear and maneuver about while donning, for it does have frequent tendency to slip off the top of the head to the shoulders. To wear this type of abaya, the woman needs to take frequent attention to adjusting it and returning it to it's resting spot on her head. This is most often true at times of sitting and standing or bending over, or getting in and out of a car. And if she has children or any other load to carry, or needs to move about in manner that requires more physical movements and adjustments, this type of abaya proves to be more of a hindrance than a help. In such cases, it may be more wise and prove easier to opt for the shoulder type and use a rather large flowing scarf or khmaar in order to properly cover her shoulders and chest regions.
As a closing statement, I would like to remind all that the basic purpose and meaning of and for the hijab is to cover and conceal. If the hijab is revealing or perhaps attractive (and therefore a distraction) in any way, then it has not met the goal and requirement of concealing.
The hijab is something that Allah (SWT), has written as a guiding law for all of the believing women. And to disregard it in disobedience is a grave sin. And Allah said:
'And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons or their sister's sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hand possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex…' (s. 24, v. 31)
And Allah knows best in all matters.
I pray that we shall each, wherever we are in the world and surrounded by whatever society, shall find within ourselves the courage and determination to seek Allah's pleasure by implementing His guidance and His commands into our daily lives.
Do not fear the onlookers of the kuffar who may want to somehow intimidate you, my dear sisters, or otherwise pressure you into rejecting the hijab and literally letting your hair down. Nor should you be influenced by those weaker muslims who have, for whatever reason, discarded and all but forgotten the hijab themselves. Do not be fooled by the trickery of those who would claim that to don the hijab is merely a matter of personal choice.
Religion itself is a personal choice. And to pray or not, or to fast or not, etc., is a matter of personal choice also. But before we make the choice to pray or to fast, we know that these are obligatory duties we owe to Allah, and so we perform or observe them in practice. And so is the hijab-a duty we owe to Allah which we should observe and practice. It is obligatory upon each one of us to wear the hijab, as He has so obviously and clearly directed the believing women to do so.
Are you a believing woman? If so, then there should be no question in your mind nor hesitance in your heart to take on the hijab as He has commanded you!
And how and why to wear it
It has become a trend quite evident in today's world that there is much question or controversy over the hijab, or the head-dress that the muslim women wear. The basic question is to it's validity as an obligation by muslim women to wear it. And the secondary question is whether or not they should follow this practice.
With the following report, I propose to explain the various forms of the hijab itself, and how it is worn, for those women desiring to wear it, but don't know exactly how to do so. And, to answer the questions by muslims and non-muslims alike as to the validity and necessity to wear the hijab, I shall present the reason for it and the proof that it is indeed an obligation upon each believing woman.
The head-dress covering for the female muslim, or the basic hijab, can come in several different styles of essence of make-up and basic design, each with it's own method of application to adorn. The hijab can easily be divided into 3 basic styles: the khimaar, the triangular scarf, and the elongated shawl-scarf.
Khimaar: This is most generally made up of one piece of cloth, cut in a large flowing circle and going on the bias of the cloth towards the outer circular edges. The upper portion, where there is the opening for the face, is naturally narrower so as to provide a close fit to hug the head and enclose to reveal only the face. The opening of the face is then closed tight either by fixed stitches or perhaps a snap or even a safety pit directly under the chin to ensure a tight fit around the face, preventing it from slipping off the head or revealing the neck and/or ears. The khimaar generally comes in two sizes-small and large. The small will most generally cover the head and heck area only-the end of the material hitting at the upper shoulder line. The more large and complete khimaar is as it's name designates-larger-and flows down on all sides, front, and back, covering the shoulders, chest, and arms-the edges of this garment most generally touch the wrist area, or for the smaller woman, will cover even her hands.
Sometimes it consists of two parts-a small fitted cap or tie-scarf to fit on the head as a cap, and the larger, more draping over-section of the khimaar itself.
To better understand the basic nature of the term 'khimaar', it may help to understand the language itself. 'Khimaar' is a resulting term coming from the root 'khaymah', which means tent. The term 'khimaar', then, refers to a tent-like garment or covering.
Triangular Scarf: This piece is usually of two variants. One is that it is merely a triangular cut, to be placed upon the head and then fixed either by tying or pin at the chin in front. The other variant is a piece of square cloth, to be folded over into a triangle and then fixed in similar fashion as described for the first variant.
For both variants of the triangular scarf, some women sometimes opt to tie it in the back, revealing their neck. With this method of application, only the hair is covered. And yet some women opt to fix it in the front under the chin, yet they tuck in all the remaining cloth into the neck region of their garment, merely only covering the neck and head in quite tight fitting material. In both cases, although this is a form of modesty, still it is not sufficient, for it is not a true covering, since it is in fact revealing, and Allah knows best.
Elongated Shawl-Scarf: This is a piece of cloth usually measuring 1 & 1/2 meters to 2 meters in length, and the width may vary anywhere from 1/2 meter to 1 meter. This style takes more practice and determination to learn to wear as well as to keep in place. But-if it is the wider variety-is more covering than that of the triangular shape.
To get the best final result in covering, it is best to begin with centering it upon your head, before wrapping around, off-centered rather than centered. By this, I mean that the center of it, length-wise, should not be at the center of the top of your head. Rather, it should be off-center, causing a longer tail of the shawl on either the right or the left side-whichever side it is more comfortable and adaptable for you to guide the scarf under your chin and then back up around your head, to fasten in of the remaining outer front edge into the front edge of the scarf that is framing your face (this 'fasten' should be somewhere on the side, approximately in the region of the ear). The other edge (width-wise) of the shawl should then lie flat and form a result of flowing to cover the neck, breasts, and shoulder areas, according to the size of the width of the shawl itself.
Remember that this type of hijab is easier and more frequent to losen off of your head, and so as a result, some women prefer to affix this hijab (as well as the triangular scarf) at it's point of closure (where the two overlapping sides meet and connect) with some sort of a fastener-such as a hair pin or perhaps a hat-pin type. It is most inconvenient, not to mention in opposition of the nature or ideal of the hijab itself, to have to be consistently re-doing your adornmnent of the hijab in public.
The above-mentioned are the basic three forms of hijab. Now, on to the niqab, or the face covering. The strict description of the niqab, as per Arabic language goes, is that it is a veil, or a face covering, which is affixed to the head in some format (such as tied in the back, or closed with a snap or velcroe, or attached via a stretch elastic strap, etc.). And, according to this definition, this type of face covering leaves a slit opening which reveals only the eyes. Depending upon the way the niqab is made, and how the individual wears it, the size of the slit may vary on person to person-some revealing more, while others less.
This niqab is most generally affixed and worn over the underlying hijab (scarf, shawl, or khimaar).
The abaya, or the outer 'over cloak' may take on several distinct designs. The basic two styles is that which is worn from the shoulders, and that which is worn from on top of the head.
For the type which is worn from the shoulders, there are basically two distinctive types. One is that of a more fitted cut, and therefore tight-fitting such as a coat. It may be very loose and flowing from the shoulders down to the floor-but it's very nature of the cut-design of the garment-that it has fitted shoulders, arm-holes and sleeves, makes it fitted and revealing in it's very nature. The second major style within this group of 'shoulder abayas' is that which it's cut is less definitive and fitting, and more square and open, as is the traditional abaya. With each of these abayas, and for any abaya worn on the shoulders, it is imperative that the hijab is worn over the abaya. This is to ensure that there is some fabric over flowing from the neck, shoulders, and chest region. If this shoulder abaya is worn on top of the hijab, with the hijab tucked inside of the neck opening (which, by the way, many women tend to wear it, sadly), that gives a more easy opportunity for onlookers to notice the size and proportions of the woman's upper body. And this is in defeat of the essential purpose of the hijab (in this essence, I mean the hijab of the complete covering-not just the piece of cloth worn on the head) altogether.
As for the abaya which is worn on the head, the basic cut and design of it is more full and flowing and loose-fitting than which is the type worn on the shoulders. This basically holds true even for the latest developments in some of the newer styles which are partially fitted for the shoulders and arms area. Some (the older fashions) of the abayas are completely open down the middle of the front, and only meet at the front, revealing the dress underneath. To cover herself well with such an abaya, the woman needs to manually or physically over wrap the two portions of the front and then hold it in place with her hands as she maneuvers about. Needless to say, the mere logistics of the design of this abaya, and it's lack of fastening to keep the front closed presents more difficulty for the womans as well as the high likelihood that as she moves about, there will inevitably come situations in which she won't be completely covered. The modern abayas of this style have small openings at either side where the natural point of exit for the hands comes. This development in itself is rather new, somewhere in the range of 15 years now. Previously, there was no such opening for the hands at the outer edges. If she wished to keep the abaya on her and to let it cover her in length, then she needed to keep her hands inside, holding the abaya together and on herself from within the inside, creating great difficulty in any maneuverings and interactions with others. Very difficult-if possible at all-to grab hold of a door handle or to handle merchandise or money in the market, etc. Double hard if she had to take care of or handle a child. In most cases, in those days, the women would bring the abaya together in the front at the waist region in over-lapping fashion, then she would flip the lower ends of the abaya over her forearms, bringing the lower edge up to her hips or mid-thighs in a rather hip-hugging fashion. This would serve a double purpose of keeping the abaya together in the front as well as the every important result of freeing up her hands for practical usage. But it would also then naturally reveal whatever dress or pants she was wearing under the abaya, as well as in it's resulting hip-hugging fashion, would of course drag every passerby's attention to her hips. Naturally, not a very good 'hijab' in the sense of covering, for it tends to attract more attention of onlookers rather than what it prevented.
Nowadays, the common form of the abaya worn on the head is one which provides rather wide sleeve-like apertures for the arms, and the two front sections are cut larger than what is needed to merely meet in the middle-rather, they overlap and are fixed to either side by fasteners and ties near the waist region. The under flap is affixed towards the one side by fasteners underneath (inside) and the upper flap is affixed to the other side by fasteners on the outside. Yet another form of abaya has developed-which has been dubbed the 'Islamic abaya'-it is either of one large tubular piece of cloth with opening for the face and neck, resting only on the top of the head (also, of course, openings at the sides for the hands); or perhaps originally open in the front but sewn a permanent seam down the front so as not to open, leaving only the opening for the head.
In each case of whatever style of the abaya chosen, the type that is worn on the head is the last thing to go on over the hijab and niqab. The middle section which lays on the top of the head normally falls about right in the middle of the top of the crown of the head.
Although this type of abaya is perhaps the best choice if one is desiring the most modest and complete form of covering, it is a bit more difficult to properly wear and maneuver about while donning, for it does have frequent tendency to slip off the top of the head to the shoulders. To wear this type of abaya, the woman needs to take frequent attention to adjusting it and returning it to it's resting spot on her head. This is most often true at times of sitting and standing or bending over, or getting in and out of a car. And if she has children or any other load to carry, or needs to move about in manner that requires more physical movements and adjustments, this type of abaya proves to be more of a hindrance than a help. In such cases, it may be more wise and prove easier to opt for the shoulder type and use a rather large flowing scarf or khmaar in order to properly cover her shoulders and chest regions.
As a closing statement, I would like to remind all that the basic purpose and meaning of and for the hijab is to cover and conceal. If the hijab is revealing or perhaps attractive (and therefore a distraction) in any way, then it has not met the goal and requirement of concealing.
The hijab is something that Allah (SWT), has written as a guiding law for all of the believing women. And to disregard it in disobedience is a grave sin. And Allah said:
'And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husband's sons, their brothers or their brother's sons or their sister's sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hand possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex…' (s. 24, v. 31)
And Allah knows best in all matters.
I pray that we shall each, wherever we are in the world and surrounded by whatever society, shall find within ourselves the courage and determination to seek Allah's pleasure by implementing His guidance and His commands into our daily lives.
Do not fear the onlookers of the kuffar who may want to somehow intimidate you, my dear sisters, or otherwise pressure you into rejecting the hijab and literally letting your hair down. Nor should you be influenced by those weaker muslims who have, for whatever reason, discarded and all but forgotten the hijab themselves. Do not be fooled by the trickery of those who would claim that to don the hijab is merely a matter of personal choice.
Religion itself is a personal choice. And to pray or not, or to fast or not, etc., is a matter of personal choice also. But before we make the choice to pray or to fast, we know that these are obligatory duties we owe to Allah, and so we perform or observe them in practice. And so is the hijab-a duty we owe to Allah which we should observe and practice. It is obligatory upon each one of us to wear the hijab, as He has so obviously and clearly directed the believing women to do so.
Are you a believing woman? If so, then there should be no question in your mind nor hesitance in your heart to take on the hijab as He has commanded you!
SEEK PIETY-SEEK FORGIVENESS
SEEK PIETY-SEEK FORGIVENESS!!
Oh, my brethren, be prepared!
In the past months, we as Muslims have been witness to the coming and going of two great and major seasons important to Muslims round the world. Namely, Ramadhan and Eid-al-Fitr; and the haj and Eid-al-Adha.
And this past month the world has witnessed the passing of yet another year. It is now the year 2006 (Gregorian).
As well, we are now upon the change into the new year according to the Islamic lunar calendar of the Hijri year, 1427.
Allah's book says (meaning translated):
'It is He Who made the sun a shining thing and the moon as a light and measured out for it stages that you might know the number of years and the reckoning. Allah did not create this but in truth. He explains the ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) in detail for people who have knowledge.' (s. 10, v. 5)
And:
'Verily, the number of months with Allah is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by Allah on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them four are Sacred (i.e. the 1st, the 7th, the 11th, and the 12th months of the Islamic calendar). That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein, and fight against the mushrikun (polytheists, pagans, idolaters, disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah) collectively as they fight against you collectively. But know that Allah is with those who are al-muttaqun (the pious).' (s. 9, v. 36)
Now is the time to recount your year. What have you to show for the time? What have you accomplished? The funds that you spent-where did they come from and what did you spend them on?
Bring the year to a close in the best possible manner-by turning to Allah in humble repentance, seeking His forgiveness much and praising Him much.
Recall the truly countless blessings He has bestowed upon you.
It is not until a blessing has been taken from us-whether that be time, money, health, a loved one, or otherwise, that we begin to realize it's value and importance.
The prophet(SAAW) has said:
(Narratec by Ibn Abbas(ARA)): The prophet(SAAW) said: 'There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) health and free time for doing good.' **This means that many people do not use their health and free time in gaining more and more of good deeds.
(Sahih-Al-Bukhari, v. 8, The Book of Ar-Riqaq, p. 282, #421)
And although I do mention the passing of one year into the next, do remember that the door to forgiveness is always open, and that our account is not closed until our earthly lives have come to an end. It is just that the passing of yet another year is a stronger reminder to us of the passage of time. So many of us go through the days and nights, which develop into weeks, which develop into months, very seldomly taking notice of the passage of this time, until the date of the year of the calendar changes yet once again.
As we enter into this first month of the new year on the Islamic calendar, we should also realize the importance of this month.
The month of Muharram is one of the four sacred months. It is the first month of the Islamic hijri year. It marks the migration of those first Muslims to Madinah, in escaping the persecusion of the Quraish of Makkah.
Within this month is contained the holy time of 'Ashura'. This is in reference basically to the 10th day of this month.
When the Muslims first immigrated to Madina, the prophet(SAAW) noticed the jews fasting on this 10th day of this month. When the prophet(SAAW) inquired as to this practice, they explained to him that they recognized this date and remembered it by fasting, worshipping Allah, and giving thanks to Him, for it was on this date that Allah enabled and guided Moses to lead his people out of Egypt, freeing them of the tyrannical Pharoh.
At hearing this, Mohammed(SAAW) was so impressed that he himself adopted the fast and ordered his companions and followers to fast as well, stating that the Muslims (i.e. those who submit their will to the Will of Allah) are more entitled to recognizing and celebrating Moses and his teachings.
It was not until later, when the command for the fast of the month of Ramadhan was revealed, that the fast of Ashura became a voluntary option rather than an obligatory one.
And to differentiate the fast of the Muslims from that of others for this recognition, he(SAAW) directed that the day (i.e. 10th Muharram) be coupled with another corresponding day-either that which precedes or that which follows. In other words, to correctly observe the fast of 'Ashura', we should fast either the 9th and 10th, or the 10th and 11th.
(for some selected ahadith on Ashura, refer to Sahih Al-Bukhari, v. 3, p. 122-125, #'s 218-225)
The fast of Ashura, as we are told, is an expiation of the sins of the preceding year.
So, my dear brethren, do not remain ignorant nor arrogant, and let this grand opportunity for forgiveness pass you by.
As we are told in the Quran, fasting has been prescribed for us, in order that we attain piety. So seek piety, and fast for the sake of Allah in full humility, and seek His Forgiveness.
May Allah have mercy upon us all, accept our worshipping, and grant us piety in this life, and salvation in the next.
Oh, my brethren, be prepared!
In the past months, we as Muslims have been witness to the coming and going of two great and major seasons important to Muslims round the world. Namely, Ramadhan and Eid-al-Fitr; and the haj and Eid-al-Adha.
And this past month the world has witnessed the passing of yet another year. It is now the year 2006 (Gregorian).
As well, we are now upon the change into the new year according to the Islamic lunar calendar of the Hijri year, 1427.
Allah's book says (meaning translated):
'It is He Who made the sun a shining thing and the moon as a light and measured out for it stages that you might know the number of years and the reckoning. Allah did not create this but in truth. He explains the ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs, revelations, etc.) in detail for people who have knowledge.' (s. 10, v. 5)
And:
'Verily, the number of months with Allah is twelve months (in a year), so was it ordained by Allah on the Day when He created the heavens and the earth; of them four are Sacred (i.e. the 1st, the 7th, the 11th, and the 12th months of the Islamic calendar). That is the right religion, so wrong not yourselves therein, and fight against the mushrikun (polytheists, pagans, idolaters, disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah) collectively as they fight against you collectively. But know that Allah is with those who are al-muttaqun (the pious).' (s. 9, v. 36)
Now is the time to recount your year. What have you to show for the time? What have you accomplished? The funds that you spent-where did they come from and what did you spend them on?
Bring the year to a close in the best possible manner-by turning to Allah in humble repentance, seeking His forgiveness much and praising Him much.
Recall the truly countless blessings He has bestowed upon you.
It is not until a blessing has been taken from us-whether that be time, money, health, a loved one, or otherwise, that we begin to realize it's value and importance.
The prophet(SAAW) has said:
(Narratec by Ibn Abbas(ARA)): The prophet(SAAW) said: 'There are two blessings which many people lose: (They are) health and free time for doing good.' **This means that many people do not use their health and free time in gaining more and more of good deeds.
(Sahih-Al-Bukhari, v. 8, The Book of Ar-Riqaq, p. 282, #421)
And although I do mention the passing of one year into the next, do remember that the door to forgiveness is always open, and that our account is not closed until our earthly lives have come to an end. It is just that the passing of yet another year is a stronger reminder to us of the passage of time. So many of us go through the days and nights, which develop into weeks, which develop into months, very seldomly taking notice of the passage of this time, until the date of the year of the calendar changes yet once again.
As we enter into this first month of the new year on the Islamic calendar, we should also realize the importance of this month.
The month of Muharram is one of the four sacred months. It is the first month of the Islamic hijri year. It marks the migration of those first Muslims to Madinah, in escaping the persecusion of the Quraish of Makkah.
Within this month is contained the holy time of 'Ashura'. This is in reference basically to the 10th day of this month.
When the Muslims first immigrated to Madina, the prophet(SAAW) noticed the jews fasting on this 10th day of this month. When the prophet(SAAW) inquired as to this practice, they explained to him that they recognized this date and remembered it by fasting, worshipping Allah, and giving thanks to Him, for it was on this date that Allah enabled and guided Moses to lead his people out of Egypt, freeing them of the tyrannical Pharoh.
At hearing this, Mohammed(SAAW) was so impressed that he himself adopted the fast and ordered his companions and followers to fast as well, stating that the Muslims (i.e. those who submit their will to the Will of Allah) are more entitled to recognizing and celebrating Moses and his teachings.
It was not until later, when the command for the fast of the month of Ramadhan was revealed, that the fast of Ashura became a voluntary option rather than an obligatory one.
And to differentiate the fast of the Muslims from that of others for this recognition, he(SAAW) directed that the day (i.e. 10th Muharram) be coupled with another corresponding day-either that which precedes or that which follows. In other words, to correctly observe the fast of 'Ashura', we should fast either the 9th and 10th, or the 10th and 11th.
(for some selected ahadith on Ashura, refer to Sahih Al-Bukhari, v. 3, p. 122-125, #'s 218-225)
The fast of Ashura, as we are told, is an expiation of the sins of the preceding year.
So, my dear brethren, do not remain ignorant nor arrogant, and let this grand opportunity for forgiveness pass you by.
As we are told in the Quran, fasting has been prescribed for us, in order that we attain piety. So seek piety, and fast for the sake of Allah in full humility, and seek His Forgiveness.
May Allah have mercy upon us all, accept our worshipping, and grant us piety in this life, and salvation in the next.
REACH FOR THE SILVER LINING
REACH FOR THE SILVER LINING
Take the color grey. Some people will say it's a dark shade of white. And others will say it's a light shade of black.
A half glass of water. Some people will say it's half-full. And yet others will say it's half-empty.
Each version is right in it's own sense.
Just depends which vantage point you're coming from.
But it is this very vantage point of viewing, understanding, accepting, and dealing with the events in our lives which makes a great difference on the quality of our lives that we ourselves carve out for ourselves.
Many things occur in our daily lives which affect us in many ways, which we have little control over. We can always reflect and assume and presume that if we had done this or that previously, then it would have likely produced this or that result. Perhaps, and perhaps not.
But little good is such reflection other than it is a lesson to be learned in order to not make similar mistakes in the future. Such reflection cannot change what has happened. And it is what has happened to us already which we must deal with.
So, what will we do with what occurs to us in our lives? Will we take the lesson to be had, accept what is real, make the best of it, and move on? Or will we sadly ponder over what could have been, hopelessly wishing things could be different, digging a ditch for ourselves and remain utterly emotionally stuck in a rut-being miserable and perhaps causing misery also to those around us?
Truly, the best way to handle all things in life (which is also what is taught by Islamic principles) is to try to make the best of each and every situation. Even if you may consider it a calamity. Still, accept what has come, take the lesson to be had, learn from it and move on. Do not dwell depressingly on the dark side of things.
A relative of mine was recently stopped for speeding. And as so many here in Saudi have such high disregard for the speeding laws and fines, a newer and more severe punishment has been put into effect for those who are found to break this law. A ticket fine of 1,000 S.R. is issued (somewhere in the neighborhood of $275 US$), plus the car is impounded and the offender held in prison for 48 hours!
Now, believe you me, this last slap is a real dingy! I mean, it is this punishment that they have come up with which is really teaching folks a lesson!
Slap a fine on them, they will either grudgingly pay it or perhaps defer paying until a later date. Makes little difference. They just turn around to speeding yet again, perhaps heading down the road (sometimes literally) toward a fatal accident.
And the car-well, they can impound the car, and the offender will just go off to get himself yet another death machine to create yet more havoc.
But literally pulling him in and off the road, with no escape or outlet for 48 hours-now that's a real brainstorm! The offender is literally put in idle and safely off the roads for 48 hours. And no mobile or other distractions to pass away his time. (As all prisoners, all such personal items such as mobiles, keys, wallets, etc., are put away for safe-keeping until their release.)
All they have for amusement is the walls and bars of the prison, fellow inmates, and plenty of 'free' time for some deeper inner thought and soul-searching.
After some interfering and pleading from some influential parties on his behalf, my relative was released after a 24-hour period rather than the more regular and official 48-hours. Still, the experience was enough to shake him well enough.
He is not a habitual speeder. In fact, his driving is normally quite safely within the range. But he was in a hurry to catch a plane that day. And boom! No flight for him on that day!!
All praises and thanks be to Allah. Perhaps being stopped for speeding and held for a time saved him from a fatal accident had he been let go to continue on his speeding way to catch the plane.
He has come out of this experience wiser and more notive of his own driving, even advising others of safety measures.
And he has also learned, first hand, the beauty and value of freedom. Such a precious ideal indeed. And something that so many of us take for granted until it is taken away.
Try your best to make the best of each situation. And thank Allah much, regardless of what refalls you. Be patient and turn to Allah in prayer to find consolement.
Remember that He has promised us that He will not burden us with anything more than we can bear.
'Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope.' (s. 2, v. 286)
In times of his greatest distress, the prophet(SAAW) was known to admonish Bilal to make the call for prayer, so that they could all find peace and tranquility for what had befallen them.
So take the example set for us by our beloved prophet(SAAW) and turn to Allah in prayer, and you too will eventually find peace and tranquility.
Many storm clouds may pass over us through our lives. But remember, as the old saying goes-to each cloud there is a silver lining.
So search for those silver linings. They are there. With each and every cloud. You just have to search for it. Do not view the darkness of the cloud itself. Rather, reach inside till you can grasp the silver lining!
Remember-without the storm clouds, we cannot get the blessing of the rains with which comes the promise of new and fresh life.
May Allah bless and guide us all.
Take the color grey. Some people will say it's a dark shade of white. And others will say it's a light shade of black.
A half glass of water. Some people will say it's half-full. And yet others will say it's half-empty.
Each version is right in it's own sense.
Just depends which vantage point you're coming from.
But it is this very vantage point of viewing, understanding, accepting, and dealing with the events in our lives which makes a great difference on the quality of our lives that we ourselves carve out for ourselves.
Many things occur in our daily lives which affect us in many ways, which we have little control over. We can always reflect and assume and presume that if we had done this or that previously, then it would have likely produced this or that result. Perhaps, and perhaps not.
But little good is such reflection other than it is a lesson to be learned in order to not make similar mistakes in the future. Such reflection cannot change what has happened. And it is what has happened to us already which we must deal with.
So, what will we do with what occurs to us in our lives? Will we take the lesson to be had, accept what is real, make the best of it, and move on? Or will we sadly ponder over what could have been, hopelessly wishing things could be different, digging a ditch for ourselves and remain utterly emotionally stuck in a rut-being miserable and perhaps causing misery also to those around us?
Truly, the best way to handle all things in life (which is also what is taught by Islamic principles) is to try to make the best of each and every situation. Even if you may consider it a calamity. Still, accept what has come, take the lesson to be had, learn from it and move on. Do not dwell depressingly on the dark side of things.
A relative of mine was recently stopped for speeding. And as so many here in Saudi have such high disregard for the speeding laws and fines, a newer and more severe punishment has been put into effect for those who are found to break this law. A ticket fine of 1,000 S.R. is issued (somewhere in the neighborhood of $275 US$), plus the car is impounded and the offender held in prison for 48 hours!
Now, believe you me, this last slap is a real dingy! I mean, it is this punishment that they have come up with which is really teaching folks a lesson!
Slap a fine on them, they will either grudgingly pay it or perhaps defer paying until a later date. Makes little difference. They just turn around to speeding yet again, perhaps heading down the road (sometimes literally) toward a fatal accident.
And the car-well, they can impound the car, and the offender will just go off to get himself yet another death machine to create yet more havoc.
But literally pulling him in and off the road, with no escape or outlet for 48 hours-now that's a real brainstorm! The offender is literally put in idle and safely off the roads for 48 hours. And no mobile or other distractions to pass away his time. (As all prisoners, all such personal items such as mobiles, keys, wallets, etc., are put away for safe-keeping until their release.)
All they have for amusement is the walls and bars of the prison, fellow inmates, and plenty of 'free' time for some deeper inner thought and soul-searching.
After some interfering and pleading from some influential parties on his behalf, my relative was released after a 24-hour period rather than the more regular and official 48-hours. Still, the experience was enough to shake him well enough.
He is not a habitual speeder. In fact, his driving is normally quite safely within the range. But he was in a hurry to catch a plane that day. And boom! No flight for him on that day!!
All praises and thanks be to Allah. Perhaps being stopped for speeding and held for a time saved him from a fatal accident had he been let go to continue on his speeding way to catch the plane.
He has come out of this experience wiser and more notive of his own driving, even advising others of safety measures.
And he has also learned, first hand, the beauty and value of freedom. Such a precious ideal indeed. And something that so many of us take for granted until it is taken away.
Try your best to make the best of each situation. And thank Allah much, regardless of what refalls you. Be patient and turn to Allah in prayer to find consolement.
Remember that He has promised us that He will not burden us with anything more than we can bear.
'Allah burdens not a person beyond his scope.' (s. 2, v. 286)
In times of his greatest distress, the prophet(SAAW) was known to admonish Bilal to make the call for prayer, so that they could all find peace and tranquility for what had befallen them.
So take the example set for us by our beloved prophet(SAAW) and turn to Allah in prayer, and you too will eventually find peace and tranquility.
Many storm clouds may pass over us through our lives. But remember, as the old saying goes-to each cloud there is a silver lining.
So search for those silver linings. They are there. With each and every cloud. You just have to search for it. Do not view the darkness of the cloud itself. Rather, reach inside till you can grasp the silver lining!
Remember-without the storm clouds, we cannot get the blessing of the rains with which comes the promise of new and fresh life.
May Allah bless and guide us all.
RAMADHAN-ONCE AGAIN
RAMADHAN: ONCE AGAIN
Ramadhan-it is mentioned in the Quran.
Ramadhan-the month of fasting, so that you (O people) may attain piety.
Ramadhan-the month in which the Blessed Quran was revealed.
Ramahdan-the month of mercy, peace, and forgiveness.
Ramadhan-an excellent chance at renewing your faith as a true muslim.
People fast, pray, give to charity, and do many other forms of worship throughout the year. But in the month of Ramadhan, we witness a concentrated effort of increasing in all such manners of worship and dedicating themselves to Allah and His cause.
As for their increase in the fast in Ramadhan-one whole month of 29 or 30 days without break-this is mandatory upon each muslim past the stage of puberty who is able (healthwise) to accomplish the fast. And to miss any of the days of the fast without valid excuse (i.e. menstruating women, a traveler or ill person, etc.) is a major sin, for which there is no real expiation. Hence, you will notice that all muslims worldwide pay great heed and close attention to realizing this fast.
As for the increased prayers, charity, and any other form of worship at this time, it is largely due to the desire of those individuals to reaping the ten-fold increase of reward they have been promised for any deeds done at this time.
Many older muslims will remember of the Ramadhans past, of the increased state of their belief, or perhaps the increased sense of brotherhood, or perhaps merely the better healthy feelings they had at the end of the month of fasting. For this and many more reasons, you will find muslims worldwide anticipating the arrival of this blessed month-some even to the extent of making a count-down of the days till it's beginning.
One of the greatest joys of anticipation for this Holy month is the knowledge and realization that the devils are chained and the gates of Hell oare closed, and the gates of Heaven remain open for the duration of this month. In this alone is a great promise of extreme and extended mercy for this Blessed month. So, muslims tend to rejoice and attempt to take the greatest advantage of this blessing and opportunity.
The history of Islam and muslims has proven to show that the muslims, through their increase in worship and hence the increase in their faith during this month, has given them, by the Grace of Allah, greater strength to achieve many great things during this period. The early battles of Islam were won during this Holy month.
There are, however, some points that would benefit us all to remember, in order to reap the true benefits that this month has to offer.
One point is that although we are to refrain from intake of nourishment and marital relations in the daylight hourse-and then we are permitted to partake of these things in the night-this is not necessarily a license or a bell to change the normal routine and turn our nights into days and vice verse by staying up all night and sleeping all through the day. On the contrary, we should remain on the normal schedule of awakening in the day light hours and completing our work on a normal schedule, and take to our sleep at normal times of the night as we do for the rest of the year. And if we must insist to remain awake for more hours of the night, then we should not lose it on wasteful pastimes, but we should take great care to pay attention to the late night prayers, and gain the best rewards. Remember that Allah has told us that He has created the daylight to work and reap the harvests of our work, and the night time for rest and replenishment of our bodies and their needs. There is no clause whatsoever directing us that the nature of Ramadhan should turn that balance upside down. So, beware of the common developing trend of people to do so.
Beware also of going overboard in feasty fashion at the time of the breakfast in the evenings and throughout the night. There is nothing wrong with eating your fill after a day of fasting. But remember that your stomach and digestive system have been at rest, and so overloading it at time of breakfast will make a terribly heavy load upon it. Eat and drink-but sparingly. You may be surprised that a marginally small portion will quickly fill you up. Let the natural cleansing process of the fast work to the greatest potential benefit for you.
You should also realize that the fast in itself is not merely to refrain from the intake of nourishment and marital relations. It is also an opportune time to practice restraint in general-and namely in your interactions with others. It is quite easy and common that as the fast progresses through the day, so do the tempers rise. Many people who carelessly let their tempters run out of control will lay blame to the fast. For those for whom this lies true, it only goes to show that the fast is not benefiting them, or that they are not reaching for it's benefit, in the spiritual sense. For the fast itself is an exercise in self-control, or self-discipline. And if we cannot control our tempers at those inevitable hot times, then what have we accomplished? The prophet(SAAW) has even been recorded to have advised his companions and followers-that if you are met with an opposition accusing you of something, or in some other method seeming to instigate a fight, then do not respond to them in similar manner, but rather simply respond in a manner to reject the invitation to fight by the statement: 'Allahumma inni sa'im' (O Lord! I am fasting.). And then procede to reject and ignore the igniting spark to the fight.
This advice to avoid fighting remains true and strong for all walks of life and all situations. A very tempting and common scenario is the mother in the home with her children. The children play and interact with one another throughout the day. They bicker and fight quite frequently. They complain about one another or this or that toy. Their needs and demands are many. This consistent bickering and complaining and whining (not to mention the messiness of the house after her cleaning) is quite strenuous on the most patient of mothers. It becomes quite tempting for her to yell back at them in angry and despairing response, perhaps even sometimes to resort to physically punishing them. My advice to the mothers here is to take a deep breath, perhaps count to ten if you need those moments, and remember Allah and make the statement that you are fasting. And then, if the children really do need disciplining, then do so in a more calm (and merciful) manner.
The prophet(SAAW) has mentioned much sound advice on anger and how to manage it. This is merely one aspect-that a rise in uncontrolled anger is in fact contrary to the point and goal of the fast. It does not mean to turn the other cheek for an attacker to take advantage of you if you are attacked. By all means-if by chance you are attacked, then defend yourself in appropriate manner. But in normal day-to-day interactions with people and the world, then you should do all possible to keep your temper in check.
Ramadhan has many lessons to teach us-which we should make the extra effort to learn and then apply throughout the year. Many people will increase the night prayers in this month, seeking Allah's mercy. Then why not pay attention to those late night prayers throughout the rest of the year? Many people will increase their recitation of Quran during Ramadhan, seeking the reward for that recitation, and imitating the practice of the beloved prophet(SAAW), who used to review the Quran with Jibreel (AS) during Ramadhan. Then why not continue to recite the Quran daily throughout the year?
The kuffar world uses New Year's Day each year as a 'land-mark' holiday by which they view the passing of that day, which is truly like any other day of the year, as a landmark by which they see a hope of revision and renewal. I am sure that many of you readers are familiar with the term 'New Year's Resolutions'. This is the determination that one takes on with the realization of the passage of yet another year, of making some positive change in their life for the coming new year.
Well, for the muslims, we have two major landmarks of time passage. And these are namely, the month of Ramadhan, and the Hajj. And for the muslims, it is not merely a time of making a pledge (which sadly for most people turns out to be empty)-but rather a time of hands-on experience in which the muslim experiences first-hand the benefit of that change in daily life practices. It is an experience in which the muslim puts to physical practice the promise of the pledge. It is an experience which the muslim's mind and spirit can draw on the vivid memory of it throughout the remainder of the year. It is a chance for tangible evidence of what benefit a little change can bring to the individual's life. Hence, it is many times a strong catalyst for more permanent and beneficial change in the muslim's life.
I propose to all reading this-make this Ramadhan such an experience for you this year. Do not rejoice in the breakfast every night for the mere pleasure of eating after a tiring day. But rather- when your stomach sends those hunger pains, and when you see the relief of your food in front of you-remember your brethren worldwide less fortunate than you, who must sustain those hunger pains throughout the night and the next day as well. And don't just remember them at your time of hunger. Do something about it! See to it that some poor person-at least one-satisfies those hunger pains for at least one day! Pray the night prayers-but not only in Ramadhan. Continue throughout the year-even if only 3 rakaat nightly-to seek of Allah's mercy and forgiveness and blessings during that tender hour in which He himself has promised us that He does answer our prayers. Recite the Quran daily-not only in Ramadhan, but throughout the whole year. It is a guide to how to best live this life, as well as a guide to the path which leads to Allah. So reach out for His Mercies through the path paved with His words and directions.
Seek and reap the benefits that Ramadhan has to offer you. They are quite easy and within reach for those who will make the effort!
It thank Allah that He has blessed us to live to witness and experience yet another Ramadhan. I ask Him that He will bless us all even more now to gain not only the rewards, but as well the benefits, that Ramadhan has to offer us. Ameen.
Ramadhan-it is mentioned in the Quran.
Ramadhan-the month of fasting, so that you (O people) may attain piety.
Ramadhan-the month in which the Blessed Quran was revealed.
Ramahdan-the month of mercy, peace, and forgiveness.
Ramadhan-an excellent chance at renewing your faith as a true muslim.
People fast, pray, give to charity, and do many other forms of worship throughout the year. But in the month of Ramadhan, we witness a concentrated effort of increasing in all such manners of worship and dedicating themselves to Allah and His cause.
As for their increase in the fast in Ramadhan-one whole month of 29 or 30 days without break-this is mandatory upon each muslim past the stage of puberty who is able (healthwise) to accomplish the fast. And to miss any of the days of the fast without valid excuse (i.e. menstruating women, a traveler or ill person, etc.) is a major sin, for which there is no real expiation. Hence, you will notice that all muslims worldwide pay great heed and close attention to realizing this fast.
As for the increased prayers, charity, and any other form of worship at this time, it is largely due to the desire of those individuals to reaping the ten-fold increase of reward they have been promised for any deeds done at this time.
Many older muslims will remember of the Ramadhans past, of the increased state of their belief, or perhaps the increased sense of brotherhood, or perhaps merely the better healthy feelings they had at the end of the month of fasting. For this and many more reasons, you will find muslims worldwide anticipating the arrival of this blessed month-some even to the extent of making a count-down of the days till it's beginning.
One of the greatest joys of anticipation for this Holy month is the knowledge and realization that the devils are chained and the gates of Hell oare closed, and the gates of Heaven remain open for the duration of this month. In this alone is a great promise of extreme and extended mercy for this Blessed month. So, muslims tend to rejoice and attempt to take the greatest advantage of this blessing and opportunity.
The history of Islam and muslims has proven to show that the muslims, through their increase in worship and hence the increase in their faith during this month, has given them, by the Grace of Allah, greater strength to achieve many great things during this period. The early battles of Islam were won during this Holy month.
There are, however, some points that would benefit us all to remember, in order to reap the true benefits that this month has to offer.
One point is that although we are to refrain from intake of nourishment and marital relations in the daylight hourse-and then we are permitted to partake of these things in the night-this is not necessarily a license or a bell to change the normal routine and turn our nights into days and vice verse by staying up all night and sleeping all through the day. On the contrary, we should remain on the normal schedule of awakening in the day light hours and completing our work on a normal schedule, and take to our sleep at normal times of the night as we do for the rest of the year. And if we must insist to remain awake for more hours of the night, then we should not lose it on wasteful pastimes, but we should take great care to pay attention to the late night prayers, and gain the best rewards. Remember that Allah has told us that He has created the daylight to work and reap the harvests of our work, and the night time for rest and replenishment of our bodies and their needs. There is no clause whatsoever directing us that the nature of Ramadhan should turn that balance upside down. So, beware of the common developing trend of people to do so.
Beware also of going overboard in feasty fashion at the time of the breakfast in the evenings and throughout the night. There is nothing wrong with eating your fill after a day of fasting. But remember that your stomach and digestive system have been at rest, and so overloading it at time of breakfast will make a terribly heavy load upon it. Eat and drink-but sparingly. You may be surprised that a marginally small portion will quickly fill you up. Let the natural cleansing process of the fast work to the greatest potential benefit for you.
You should also realize that the fast in itself is not merely to refrain from the intake of nourishment and marital relations. It is also an opportune time to practice restraint in general-and namely in your interactions with others. It is quite easy and common that as the fast progresses through the day, so do the tempers rise. Many people who carelessly let their tempters run out of control will lay blame to the fast. For those for whom this lies true, it only goes to show that the fast is not benefiting them, or that they are not reaching for it's benefit, in the spiritual sense. For the fast itself is an exercise in self-control, or self-discipline. And if we cannot control our tempers at those inevitable hot times, then what have we accomplished? The prophet(SAAW) has even been recorded to have advised his companions and followers-that if you are met with an opposition accusing you of something, or in some other method seeming to instigate a fight, then do not respond to them in similar manner, but rather simply respond in a manner to reject the invitation to fight by the statement: 'Allahumma inni sa'im' (O Lord! I am fasting.). And then procede to reject and ignore the igniting spark to the fight.
This advice to avoid fighting remains true and strong for all walks of life and all situations. A very tempting and common scenario is the mother in the home with her children. The children play and interact with one another throughout the day. They bicker and fight quite frequently. They complain about one another or this or that toy. Their needs and demands are many. This consistent bickering and complaining and whining (not to mention the messiness of the house after her cleaning) is quite strenuous on the most patient of mothers. It becomes quite tempting for her to yell back at them in angry and despairing response, perhaps even sometimes to resort to physically punishing them. My advice to the mothers here is to take a deep breath, perhaps count to ten if you need those moments, and remember Allah and make the statement that you are fasting. And then, if the children really do need disciplining, then do so in a more calm (and merciful) manner.
The prophet(SAAW) has mentioned much sound advice on anger and how to manage it. This is merely one aspect-that a rise in uncontrolled anger is in fact contrary to the point and goal of the fast. It does not mean to turn the other cheek for an attacker to take advantage of you if you are attacked. By all means-if by chance you are attacked, then defend yourself in appropriate manner. But in normal day-to-day interactions with people and the world, then you should do all possible to keep your temper in check.
Ramadhan has many lessons to teach us-which we should make the extra effort to learn and then apply throughout the year. Many people will increase the night prayers in this month, seeking Allah's mercy. Then why not pay attention to those late night prayers throughout the rest of the year? Many people will increase their recitation of Quran during Ramadhan, seeking the reward for that recitation, and imitating the practice of the beloved prophet(SAAW), who used to review the Quran with Jibreel (AS) during Ramadhan. Then why not continue to recite the Quran daily throughout the year?
The kuffar world uses New Year's Day each year as a 'land-mark' holiday by which they view the passing of that day, which is truly like any other day of the year, as a landmark by which they see a hope of revision and renewal. I am sure that many of you readers are familiar with the term 'New Year's Resolutions'. This is the determination that one takes on with the realization of the passage of yet another year, of making some positive change in their life for the coming new year.
Well, for the muslims, we have two major landmarks of time passage. And these are namely, the month of Ramadhan, and the Hajj. And for the muslims, it is not merely a time of making a pledge (which sadly for most people turns out to be empty)-but rather a time of hands-on experience in which the muslim experiences first-hand the benefit of that change in daily life practices. It is an experience in which the muslim puts to physical practice the promise of the pledge. It is an experience which the muslim's mind and spirit can draw on the vivid memory of it throughout the remainder of the year. It is a chance for tangible evidence of what benefit a little change can bring to the individual's life. Hence, it is many times a strong catalyst for more permanent and beneficial change in the muslim's life.
I propose to all reading this-make this Ramadhan such an experience for you this year. Do not rejoice in the breakfast every night for the mere pleasure of eating after a tiring day. But rather- when your stomach sends those hunger pains, and when you see the relief of your food in front of you-remember your brethren worldwide less fortunate than you, who must sustain those hunger pains throughout the night and the next day as well. And don't just remember them at your time of hunger. Do something about it! See to it that some poor person-at least one-satisfies those hunger pains for at least one day! Pray the night prayers-but not only in Ramadhan. Continue throughout the year-even if only 3 rakaat nightly-to seek of Allah's mercy and forgiveness and blessings during that tender hour in which He himself has promised us that He does answer our prayers. Recite the Quran daily-not only in Ramadhan, but throughout the whole year. It is a guide to how to best live this life, as well as a guide to the path which leads to Allah. So reach out for His Mercies through the path paved with His words and directions.
Seek and reap the benefits that Ramadhan has to offer you. They are quite easy and within reach for those who will make the effort!
It thank Allah that He has blessed us to live to witness and experience yet another Ramadhan. I ask Him that He will bless us all even more now to gain not only the rewards, but as well the benefits, that Ramadhan has to offer us. Ameen.
PUT ALL YOUR CARES BEHIND YOU!
PUT ALL YOUR CARES BEHIND YOU
Can you really do it? Forget about all of the day's activities and distractions, the memories of a lost yesterday, the plans for tomorrow and beyond-and then concentrate fully on the issue at hand?
A rather difficult thing to do in this fast-paced, multi-tasking, worldly oriented life of ours today. And particularly difficult in matters of worship. Specifically speaking of prayer.
But to attain a true sense of sincerity, and achieve the fulfilling sensation of having offered the prayer in the best possible form-that is exactly what we must do: put all the worldly cares truly behind, and concentrate whole-heartedly and quite sincerely on the issue at hand-that of worshipping the Creator as He deserves to be worshipped-associating no partners with Him by not being distracted by our worries or cares of the moment or this worldly life.
Although my days and nights are most generally taken up by other activities, once in a while I get the chance to see a glimpse of TV or hear one of the various programs on the radio broadcast. As I keep my bedroom clock-radio tuned to the Saudi broadcast of the Quran, I many times at night or early morning catch some of the radio talk shows where people call in for live fatwa (religious rulings) answers from the scholars.
It was on one of these broadcasts that I heard a woman ask the scholar about the 'takbirat-al-ihram' (i.e. the statement of 'Allahu akbar' as the official commencement of the prayer)-it's validity, importance, and relation to the prayer. As she was on the line, she made mention that although she knew of the 'takbirat al-ihram', still for some reason she had been forgetfully and mis-mindedly ignoring it's implementation for years. In other words, she had been performing her prayers without beinning by the announcement: 'Allahu akbar.'
The scholar's answer was that all of her prayers that were offered without the commencing statement of 'Allahu akbar' were invalid, thus most likely unaccepted by Allah (Allah knows best). He based this answer on the ruling that the 'takbirat al-ihram' is one of the basic cornerstones of the prayer. Without it, the prayer is not valid. Secondly, he based his answer also on the fact that although this woman had previous knowledge of the 'takbirat al-ihram', still she chose to ignore it's importance, perhaps out of haste to get the prayer started and then finished.
Another locally well-known Saudi scholar, in speaking on the basic points of the validity of the prayer-mentioned how this statement in and of itself (Allahu akbar), coupled with the action of raising the hands at about ear-level (i.e. above the shoulders)-fingers brought in close to one another, palms facing forward as the face, signifies the similitude of putting all of our worldly cares and thoughts of the moment behind us, clearing the path to the front for clear contemplation on Allah, His creation, and our relation to Him and His creation-in order that we may apply ourselves fully in body, spirit, and soul-to the most important task of worshipping Him.
What a beautifully exacting description of the opening commencement of the prayer-the 'takbirat al-ihram'! Put all of your cares and worries behind you, and direct your mind, body, and soul, to the worship of your Creator!
Do not be among the lost-those who have lost their prayers, and therefore have lost out on all the benefits which they may have reaped otherwise.
As for the woman who asked about the validity of her prayers which she offered void of the 'takbirat al-ihram', not only did the sheikh tell her that her prayers she offered in such manner were invalid. He also mentioned that these prayers were a duty she owed unto Allah, seeing as how they were of the obligatory prayers. Hence, she had fallen into debt with Allah. And the only way to now clear that debt would be for her to once again offer all those prayers from all those years-this time in proper prescribed manner-by commencing with the statement 'Allahu akbar'.
It is interesting how so many people in this life are anxious to repay their debts with the banks or other institutions or individuals from whom they have obtained loans. Yet when they fall into debt with the Creator and Sustainer of the universe-they put it off so non-chalantly. And yet, the possible penalties pending from the second scenario are so much more devastating and everlasting!
Beware, oh my brethren Muslims, from the debt you m ay encrue upon yourself with the Creator! Do what you must to either avoid it or pull yourself out of it! This is not the type of debt where you may borrow from others to pull yourself out. You must do what is expected and commanded of you in order to pull yourself out.
Put your cares and worries behind you, and direct your attention fully towards worshipping your Creator as He deserves to be worshipped!
As it is said in the prayer call: 'come to the prayer, come to success.'
Put your cares behind you, concentrate fully and sincerely, and you too shall find success in your prayers and your reward with Allah.
Can you really do it? Forget about all of the day's activities and distractions, the memories of a lost yesterday, the plans for tomorrow and beyond-and then concentrate fully on the issue at hand?
A rather difficult thing to do in this fast-paced, multi-tasking, worldly oriented life of ours today. And particularly difficult in matters of worship. Specifically speaking of prayer.
But to attain a true sense of sincerity, and achieve the fulfilling sensation of having offered the prayer in the best possible form-that is exactly what we must do: put all the worldly cares truly behind, and concentrate whole-heartedly and quite sincerely on the issue at hand-that of worshipping the Creator as He deserves to be worshipped-associating no partners with Him by not being distracted by our worries or cares of the moment or this worldly life.
Although my days and nights are most generally taken up by other activities, once in a while I get the chance to see a glimpse of TV or hear one of the various programs on the radio broadcast. As I keep my bedroom clock-radio tuned to the Saudi broadcast of the Quran, I many times at night or early morning catch some of the radio talk shows where people call in for live fatwa (religious rulings) answers from the scholars.
It was on one of these broadcasts that I heard a woman ask the scholar about the 'takbirat-al-ihram' (i.e. the statement of 'Allahu akbar' as the official commencement of the prayer)-it's validity, importance, and relation to the prayer. As she was on the line, she made mention that although she knew of the 'takbirat al-ihram', still for some reason she had been forgetfully and mis-mindedly ignoring it's implementation for years. In other words, she had been performing her prayers without beinning by the announcement: 'Allahu akbar.'
The scholar's answer was that all of her prayers that were offered without the commencing statement of 'Allahu akbar' were invalid, thus most likely unaccepted by Allah (Allah knows best). He based this answer on the ruling that the 'takbirat al-ihram' is one of the basic cornerstones of the prayer. Without it, the prayer is not valid. Secondly, he based his answer also on the fact that although this woman had previous knowledge of the 'takbirat al-ihram', still she chose to ignore it's importance, perhaps out of haste to get the prayer started and then finished.
Another locally well-known Saudi scholar, in speaking on the basic points of the validity of the prayer-mentioned how this statement in and of itself (Allahu akbar), coupled with the action of raising the hands at about ear-level (i.e. above the shoulders)-fingers brought in close to one another, palms facing forward as the face, signifies the similitude of putting all of our worldly cares and thoughts of the moment behind us, clearing the path to the front for clear contemplation on Allah, His creation, and our relation to Him and His creation-in order that we may apply ourselves fully in body, spirit, and soul-to the most important task of worshipping Him.
What a beautifully exacting description of the opening commencement of the prayer-the 'takbirat al-ihram'! Put all of your cares and worries behind you, and direct your mind, body, and soul, to the worship of your Creator!
Do not be among the lost-those who have lost their prayers, and therefore have lost out on all the benefits which they may have reaped otherwise.
As for the woman who asked about the validity of her prayers which she offered void of the 'takbirat al-ihram', not only did the sheikh tell her that her prayers she offered in such manner were invalid. He also mentioned that these prayers were a duty she owed unto Allah, seeing as how they were of the obligatory prayers. Hence, she had fallen into debt with Allah. And the only way to now clear that debt would be for her to once again offer all those prayers from all those years-this time in proper prescribed manner-by commencing with the statement 'Allahu akbar'.
It is interesting how so many people in this life are anxious to repay their debts with the banks or other institutions or individuals from whom they have obtained loans. Yet when they fall into debt with the Creator and Sustainer of the universe-they put it off so non-chalantly. And yet, the possible penalties pending from the second scenario are so much more devastating and everlasting!
Beware, oh my brethren Muslims, from the debt you m ay encrue upon yourself with the Creator! Do what you must to either avoid it or pull yourself out of it! This is not the type of debt where you may borrow from others to pull yourself out. You must do what is expected and commanded of you in order to pull yourself out.
Put your cares and worries behind you, and direct your attention fully towards worshipping your Creator as He deserves to be worshipped!
As it is said in the prayer call: 'come to the prayer, come to success.'
Put your cares behind you, concentrate fully and sincerely, and you too shall find success in your prayers and your reward with Allah.
PREPARE YOURSELVES!!
PREPARE YOURSELVES!!
Most of us, at one time or another, have traveled from one place to another far away place. Whether that travel was for a short break from our daily routine of life-i.g. a vacation-or of a more permanent nature such as moving, it invariably involved to some extent packing and other preparations. Most of us will generally pack clothes and various provisions in the form of food and drink to sustain us in our travels. Or in place of carrying those provisions with us, we will take along a plentiful stash of cash money with which to buy nourishments and various other needs along the way. As well as the afore-mentioned packing, many of us will make yet other preparations before traveling-such as arranging our homes and personal items before we leave, making sure that those dependent upon us for support are properly taken care of in our absence, etc.
Well, my dear friends-a very important and surely permanent-ah, verily: eternal-type of travel is imminent upon each and every one of us at any given time.
What differentiates this particular travel from all others is that we have no choice in the matter-no option to refuse this trip. And we also have no say-so about when we will travel nor our final destination. It is all up to the divine command and mercy of our Creator.
But we don indeed have the option to prepare for it.
Now I ask you this sincere question-what have you prepared for your trip? What do you have in the form of garments to shade and conceal you? What have you built up as a protector against the elements which may discomfort you? What have you prepared as your nourishment? What have you prepared to keep you company in that lonely, dark, cold, and damp grave? What have you prepared as assurance for your loved ones you will be forced to leave behind? What have you prepared to continue in this world to move towards good acts on your behalf?
Have you prayed? Have you fasted? Did you pay the zakat and perform the pilgrimage?
If your answers to these last points are 'yes'-then I say to you: 'so what?!' Those things are only the most basic of duties we as Muslims owe to Allah!
What I am talking about is-what-if anything- extra have you done from your heart merely for the sake of Allah?
What have you done to prepare for the Final Journey? The Journey from which there is no return to this familiar earthly life. The Journey by which we enter into a completely new, different, and unfathomable state of existence. The Journey which brings us ever closer to the Final Judgement Day and then our abode for eternity.
Have you willingly and freely given money in charity-which will bless you and sustain you later? Have you learned the Quran-which will accompany you in the grave and perhaps act as your protector from the punishment of the grave? Have you done acts of good nature purely for the sake of Allah which will earn you salvation from the fire and entrance into Heaven? Have you made provisions to sustain your loved ones whom you will leave behind? Have you remembered Allah much so that you will enter into a beautiful garden full of many trees?
My dear brethren-what have you done to prepare for your eternal abode?
Beware of losing precious time on the trivialities of this life. Remember the true reminder that this life is nothing but the passing of time and pleasures for a time. It is not the true life, nor is it our permanent abode. From Allah we have come, and it is to Him that we shall return. It is merely a testing ground to sift out the true believers from the others. To prove and determine which souls deserve paradise and great reward, and which deserve the everlasting torment and punishment.
Make the best usage of the time and health and mentality that Allah has blessed you with. Strive in every manner you possibly can for His cause, all the while hoping and praying for His help in seeking His pleasure.
Aim to die in the state of jihad (i.e. striving) in His cause-not only in the state of a mere muslim.
Abu Ad-Darda, one of the companions of the prophet(SAAW), was visited by some of the companions when news came to them of his serious condition of his dwindling health. They found him in terribly low state of depressed spirit as well as the deteriorated state of his physical health. They tried to cheer him up, reminding him of the outlook a true believing muslim should have, even when death is approaching.
In his response to them, he tearfully exclaimed his lowered spirits were not due to his realization of the imminence of the approach of death, nor was it necessarily due to his state of physical illness.
But rather that all those years previously he had always hoped and prayed that his final moments of his earthly life-the state in which his soul would be taken-that it would happen while he were in the state and action of jihad for the cause of Allah, not merely in the state of Islam.
Ah, such a high aspiration indeed! And a goal that we should all strive for-to die in the state of jihad for the cause of Allah!!
My dear muslim brethren-what have you done to prepare for that path?
What have you done for Allah??
What will be your accompaniment in the grave? Sorrow of the chances past which you did not take the best advantage of? Or happiness of the promise of salvation and paradise?
Prepare yourselves for the Journey!!
Most of us, at one time or another, have traveled from one place to another far away place. Whether that travel was for a short break from our daily routine of life-i.g. a vacation-or of a more permanent nature such as moving, it invariably involved to some extent packing and other preparations. Most of us will generally pack clothes and various provisions in the form of food and drink to sustain us in our travels. Or in place of carrying those provisions with us, we will take along a plentiful stash of cash money with which to buy nourishments and various other needs along the way. As well as the afore-mentioned packing, many of us will make yet other preparations before traveling-such as arranging our homes and personal items before we leave, making sure that those dependent upon us for support are properly taken care of in our absence, etc.
Well, my dear friends-a very important and surely permanent-ah, verily: eternal-type of travel is imminent upon each and every one of us at any given time.
What differentiates this particular travel from all others is that we have no choice in the matter-no option to refuse this trip. And we also have no say-so about when we will travel nor our final destination. It is all up to the divine command and mercy of our Creator.
But we don indeed have the option to prepare for it.
Now I ask you this sincere question-what have you prepared for your trip? What do you have in the form of garments to shade and conceal you? What have you built up as a protector against the elements which may discomfort you? What have you prepared as your nourishment? What have you prepared to keep you company in that lonely, dark, cold, and damp grave? What have you prepared as assurance for your loved ones you will be forced to leave behind? What have you prepared to continue in this world to move towards good acts on your behalf?
Have you prayed? Have you fasted? Did you pay the zakat and perform the pilgrimage?
If your answers to these last points are 'yes'-then I say to you: 'so what?!' Those things are only the most basic of duties we as Muslims owe to Allah!
What I am talking about is-what-if anything- extra have you done from your heart merely for the sake of Allah?
What have you done to prepare for the Final Journey? The Journey from which there is no return to this familiar earthly life. The Journey by which we enter into a completely new, different, and unfathomable state of existence. The Journey which brings us ever closer to the Final Judgement Day and then our abode for eternity.
Have you willingly and freely given money in charity-which will bless you and sustain you later? Have you learned the Quran-which will accompany you in the grave and perhaps act as your protector from the punishment of the grave? Have you done acts of good nature purely for the sake of Allah which will earn you salvation from the fire and entrance into Heaven? Have you made provisions to sustain your loved ones whom you will leave behind? Have you remembered Allah much so that you will enter into a beautiful garden full of many trees?
My dear brethren-what have you done to prepare for your eternal abode?
Beware of losing precious time on the trivialities of this life. Remember the true reminder that this life is nothing but the passing of time and pleasures for a time. It is not the true life, nor is it our permanent abode. From Allah we have come, and it is to Him that we shall return. It is merely a testing ground to sift out the true believers from the others. To prove and determine which souls deserve paradise and great reward, and which deserve the everlasting torment and punishment.
Make the best usage of the time and health and mentality that Allah has blessed you with. Strive in every manner you possibly can for His cause, all the while hoping and praying for His help in seeking His pleasure.
Aim to die in the state of jihad (i.e. striving) in His cause-not only in the state of a mere muslim.
Abu Ad-Darda, one of the companions of the prophet(SAAW), was visited by some of the companions when news came to them of his serious condition of his dwindling health. They found him in terribly low state of depressed spirit as well as the deteriorated state of his physical health. They tried to cheer him up, reminding him of the outlook a true believing muslim should have, even when death is approaching.
In his response to them, he tearfully exclaimed his lowered spirits were not due to his realization of the imminence of the approach of death, nor was it necessarily due to his state of physical illness.
But rather that all those years previously he had always hoped and prayed that his final moments of his earthly life-the state in which his soul would be taken-that it would happen while he were in the state and action of jihad for the cause of Allah, not merely in the state of Islam.
Ah, such a high aspiration indeed! And a goal that we should all strive for-to die in the state of jihad for the cause of Allah!!
My dear muslim brethren-what have you done to prepare for that path?
What have you done for Allah??
What will be your accompaniment in the grave? Sorrow of the chances past which you did not take the best advantage of? Or happiness of the promise of salvation and paradise?
Prepare yourselves for the Journey!!
ODE TO A BELOVED UNCLE
ODE TO A BELOVED UNCLE
His talent, his knowledge, and the art-now lost forever!!
As muslims, we have been fore-warned that as time passes, and as the Judgement Day draws near-as the Hour has been established-so will the beneficial knowledge decrease. Scholars of Islamic teachings have interpreted this through the ages to mean not that knowledge will be picked from our brains and removed as one picks and removed berries from a bush-but rather that those blessed souls who have been endowed with knowledge and a special talent or a gift will die off, without-for some odd reason or another-having passed on that knowledge or talent for future generations to benefit from and develop upon.
And so this happens now as I am a sad witness to it.
The passing of Uncle Abdallah is a sad blow on so many. It is always typically selfishly sad for us when a loved one passes along. Out of our natural human inclinations, we cry out of the sorrow of looking towards the moments to come when we will miss the presence of our loved one in our lives. A presence which we had become accustomed to, and which we selfishly dread when faced with the reality of this immediate future void. That is in reality a reflection of the love of one's self, not of the loved one who has passed along. How many times-at the death of a loved one-have you heard those remaining cry out for fear of the unknown which the deceased must be entering??
Uncle Abdallah was well-trained and professionally versed in the age-old art of what might be called 'traditional orthopedics'. He was not a lettered man. Nor did he go through anything anyways near a conventional medical school. But he knew how to read, understand, and interpret an x-ray. And even more important-he knew in his brain and heart where and how to guide his crafted yet strong hands to set straight even the most peculiar bone and/or muscular deformities, fractures, slips, sprains, and strains. In the Arabic, his craft is known as one of the many branches of 'arab medicine'. This term is a wide-encompassing term meaning in general traditional treatment passed down through the centuries and generations. In encompasses a wide range of treatments from the usage of herbs and spices and home-made remedies of mixtures of ointments and lotions as well as various herbal potions, and of course, not excluding the physical treatment of setting straight orthopedic ailments.
His practice could perhaps be compared to the more modern development of chiropractic treatment, but only in a vague way. This is an art encompassing much more than mere chiropractic practices.
And so sad for the remaining community-his craft and this gift from God has been lost now forever. Unless and until God should grace yet another soul miraculously to begin all over again. But it is a feat not easy to achieve. For the knowledge that Uncle Abdallah acquired and went to his grave with was not something he merely woke up with one day. No; it had accumulated painfully and slowly through the ages; passed down from generation to generation, to apparently diminish and disappear now in this age. So sad for those remaining.
So many knew him far and wide. He had no need to advertise. The simplest and most ancient form of advertisement-word of mouth-was plenty to assure him of even the most distant customers, day and night, all through the year.
Severe cold or rain would not discourage them from waking him and his family at any hour of the day or night. Nor would great distances or miles be a hindrance for those seeking an option to long periods of uncomfortable casts or invasive surgery using steel implants, which would require even more eventual surgery. And, unlike the various modern-day treatments, his age-old practice proved to induce good, strong, proper, and even healing of the bones, muscles, and related tendons and fibers.
A dearly lost art indeed. And a man greatly missed by so many.
He was widely known as fair and just in all matters. Extremely generous, he would jump at the chance to entertain and feed the guests. He was well-known to even compete with others in attaining guests for entertainment, so deeply rooted was his inclination towards generosity towards the guests.
And so loving and caring for his family. Always ensuring to provide the best he could for them, and more. And although he had no dependable monthly income, he was never one to be known to be miserly towards his children or his wife. Yearly ensuring a trip to Makkah and then to Madinah for witnessing the completion of the fast of Ramadhan and the celebration of the eid. And providing for his wife not only the enjoyment of the trip, but as well gifts for her to take back home for herself, and plenty of shopping money for her to buy gifts for her loved ones back home as a treat of her return from traveling.
Such a loving and generous man indeed. Even in the late years, when the two (i.e. man and wife) had become rather slow and weak in their movements, he was so daunting on his beloved wife to take her himself personally to visit her sisters or other loved ones, keeping her hand in his to guide her in and out of the car to the door of the houses, and back. And now, the surviving wife is left to face the emptiness of her house, the evolving emptiness of her life without her life-long partner, and the upcoming excruciating moments when she must clear his possessions out of the house out of her view. Going back into her bedroom now, the pain only begins over and over again, as she notices his cloak hanging in the closet, his clothes hanging on the hook on the wall, and the thin cane he customarily carried along with him, all painful physical evidence of his one-time presence in this worldly life. Letting go is always a drawn-out and painful process. But it is something that we all must face eventually.
Of those he treated, I will narrate briefly to you of only a few to demonstrate his explicit talent. One-a young man-was in a devastating car accident. It was a miracle that this young man did not die in that accident, nor was he more seriously hurt than the fractures that he encountered. But he came out with a broken thigh bone, and a shattered hip and joint. The doctors prescribed a sequence of surgeries to reset the break, and to reconstruct the shattered hip and joint. The young man and his mother so wisely opted to try Uncle Abdallah's traditional treatment. And so he proceeded in his usual manner of first washing the injured area with warm water and soap. And then his hands began with the knowing pressure and pulling, advising those standing by to hold the man down as the pain would rise, until he got the fracture and the dislocations and the shattered bone fragments all set in the proper places. Then he would wrap the region with perhaps a strap of leather, covered by some gauze, after first applying a mixture of a ghee and honey rub as a soothing ointment which also helps induce the healing process. And before leaving the patient, he would first instruct the patient and family on how long the wrap should remain before removal or his next visit; and also on how or when the patient can bath; and he would remind them also of the importance of healthy diet to help induce good healing: fresh meat broth, fresh fruits and juices, etc.
As for the young man, the treatment consisted of several such repeated visits over a span of several months. And, finally, when the healing was complete and all wraps removed and he could easily walk again, he returned to the doctor who treated him those first days and nights at the hospital. That same orthopedic surgeon who was so insulted by the young man's insistence to exit the hospital, fractures untreated, on his own accord and accepting his own responsibility for any adverse reactions to his own option for refusing conventional treatment.
The doctor could not believe his eyes: the young man was walking again-only several months after the accident-with only a slight limp, no sign of any distortion of the leg, nor any sign of surgical entrance. How could this be??? Could it be true???
The doctor asked the young man to agree to a new x-ray, as well as he asked medical records for his chart and previous x-rays to make a study comparison between the two sets of x-rays.
It was truly amazing! Without any invasive surgery; with only his skilled hands, experience, and knowledge, Uncle Abdallah was able, by the grace and permission of God, to renew this young man's leg into a miraculously healed and useful leg!!
All praises and thanks be to God Almighty. And may He shower His mercy on Uncle Abdallah and let him rest in peace.
As for uncountable others-truly countless breaks, dislocations, deformities, sprains, and strains, have all been successfully set straight by Uncle Abdallah.
But now to be no more. He and his art and his heart are lost to us all now forever.
But the memory of him, of his talent, of his love and care for his fellow man, will carry on in so many of our hearts for a long time. As well as the memory of so many witnesses to his attention and attachment to worshipping God in the best possible manner.
If I had the chance to relay to Uncle Abdallah a message-I would say: 'We miss you dearly, O father!! Not only for the great service you provided to so many, and the odd hours that you would- without any complaint- jump to help others, but for your deep and caring heart, for your strength, for your love and kindness. I pray that you will rest in peace and comfort now, with no more pain or discomfort, and that you will be admitted into the most beautiful and wide expansive Heavens!! Ameen!!!'
His talent, his knowledge, and the art-now lost forever!!
As muslims, we have been fore-warned that as time passes, and as the Judgement Day draws near-as the Hour has been established-so will the beneficial knowledge decrease. Scholars of Islamic teachings have interpreted this through the ages to mean not that knowledge will be picked from our brains and removed as one picks and removed berries from a bush-but rather that those blessed souls who have been endowed with knowledge and a special talent or a gift will die off, without-for some odd reason or another-having passed on that knowledge or talent for future generations to benefit from and develop upon.
And so this happens now as I am a sad witness to it.
The passing of Uncle Abdallah is a sad blow on so many. It is always typically selfishly sad for us when a loved one passes along. Out of our natural human inclinations, we cry out of the sorrow of looking towards the moments to come when we will miss the presence of our loved one in our lives. A presence which we had become accustomed to, and which we selfishly dread when faced with the reality of this immediate future void. That is in reality a reflection of the love of one's self, not of the loved one who has passed along. How many times-at the death of a loved one-have you heard those remaining cry out for fear of the unknown which the deceased must be entering??
Uncle Abdallah was well-trained and professionally versed in the age-old art of what might be called 'traditional orthopedics'. He was not a lettered man. Nor did he go through anything anyways near a conventional medical school. But he knew how to read, understand, and interpret an x-ray. And even more important-he knew in his brain and heart where and how to guide his crafted yet strong hands to set straight even the most peculiar bone and/or muscular deformities, fractures, slips, sprains, and strains. In the Arabic, his craft is known as one of the many branches of 'arab medicine'. This term is a wide-encompassing term meaning in general traditional treatment passed down through the centuries and generations. In encompasses a wide range of treatments from the usage of herbs and spices and home-made remedies of mixtures of ointments and lotions as well as various herbal potions, and of course, not excluding the physical treatment of setting straight orthopedic ailments.
His practice could perhaps be compared to the more modern development of chiropractic treatment, but only in a vague way. This is an art encompassing much more than mere chiropractic practices.
And so sad for the remaining community-his craft and this gift from God has been lost now forever. Unless and until God should grace yet another soul miraculously to begin all over again. But it is a feat not easy to achieve. For the knowledge that Uncle Abdallah acquired and went to his grave with was not something he merely woke up with one day. No; it had accumulated painfully and slowly through the ages; passed down from generation to generation, to apparently diminish and disappear now in this age. So sad for those remaining.
So many knew him far and wide. He had no need to advertise. The simplest and most ancient form of advertisement-word of mouth-was plenty to assure him of even the most distant customers, day and night, all through the year.
Severe cold or rain would not discourage them from waking him and his family at any hour of the day or night. Nor would great distances or miles be a hindrance for those seeking an option to long periods of uncomfortable casts or invasive surgery using steel implants, which would require even more eventual surgery. And, unlike the various modern-day treatments, his age-old practice proved to induce good, strong, proper, and even healing of the bones, muscles, and related tendons and fibers.
A dearly lost art indeed. And a man greatly missed by so many.
He was widely known as fair and just in all matters. Extremely generous, he would jump at the chance to entertain and feed the guests. He was well-known to even compete with others in attaining guests for entertainment, so deeply rooted was his inclination towards generosity towards the guests.
And so loving and caring for his family. Always ensuring to provide the best he could for them, and more. And although he had no dependable monthly income, he was never one to be known to be miserly towards his children or his wife. Yearly ensuring a trip to Makkah and then to Madinah for witnessing the completion of the fast of Ramadhan and the celebration of the eid. And providing for his wife not only the enjoyment of the trip, but as well gifts for her to take back home for herself, and plenty of shopping money for her to buy gifts for her loved ones back home as a treat of her return from traveling.
Such a loving and generous man indeed. Even in the late years, when the two (i.e. man and wife) had become rather slow and weak in their movements, he was so daunting on his beloved wife to take her himself personally to visit her sisters or other loved ones, keeping her hand in his to guide her in and out of the car to the door of the houses, and back. And now, the surviving wife is left to face the emptiness of her house, the evolving emptiness of her life without her life-long partner, and the upcoming excruciating moments when she must clear his possessions out of the house out of her view. Going back into her bedroom now, the pain only begins over and over again, as she notices his cloak hanging in the closet, his clothes hanging on the hook on the wall, and the thin cane he customarily carried along with him, all painful physical evidence of his one-time presence in this worldly life. Letting go is always a drawn-out and painful process. But it is something that we all must face eventually.
Of those he treated, I will narrate briefly to you of only a few to demonstrate his explicit talent. One-a young man-was in a devastating car accident. It was a miracle that this young man did not die in that accident, nor was he more seriously hurt than the fractures that he encountered. But he came out with a broken thigh bone, and a shattered hip and joint. The doctors prescribed a sequence of surgeries to reset the break, and to reconstruct the shattered hip and joint. The young man and his mother so wisely opted to try Uncle Abdallah's traditional treatment. And so he proceeded in his usual manner of first washing the injured area with warm water and soap. And then his hands began with the knowing pressure and pulling, advising those standing by to hold the man down as the pain would rise, until he got the fracture and the dislocations and the shattered bone fragments all set in the proper places. Then he would wrap the region with perhaps a strap of leather, covered by some gauze, after first applying a mixture of a ghee and honey rub as a soothing ointment which also helps induce the healing process. And before leaving the patient, he would first instruct the patient and family on how long the wrap should remain before removal or his next visit; and also on how or when the patient can bath; and he would remind them also of the importance of healthy diet to help induce good healing: fresh meat broth, fresh fruits and juices, etc.
As for the young man, the treatment consisted of several such repeated visits over a span of several months. And, finally, when the healing was complete and all wraps removed and he could easily walk again, he returned to the doctor who treated him those first days and nights at the hospital. That same orthopedic surgeon who was so insulted by the young man's insistence to exit the hospital, fractures untreated, on his own accord and accepting his own responsibility for any adverse reactions to his own option for refusing conventional treatment.
The doctor could not believe his eyes: the young man was walking again-only several months after the accident-with only a slight limp, no sign of any distortion of the leg, nor any sign of surgical entrance. How could this be??? Could it be true???
The doctor asked the young man to agree to a new x-ray, as well as he asked medical records for his chart and previous x-rays to make a study comparison between the two sets of x-rays.
It was truly amazing! Without any invasive surgery; with only his skilled hands, experience, and knowledge, Uncle Abdallah was able, by the grace and permission of God, to renew this young man's leg into a miraculously healed and useful leg!!
All praises and thanks be to God Almighty. And may He shower His mercy on Uncle Abdallah and let him rest in peace.
As for uncountable others-truly countless breaks, dislocations, deformities, sprains, and strains, have all been successfully set straight by Uncle Abdallah.
But now to be no more. He and his art and his heart are lost to us all now forever.
But the memory of him, of his talent, of his love and care for his fellow man, will carry on in so many of our hearts for a long time. As well as the memory of so many witnesses to his attention and attachment to worshipping God in the best possible manner.
If I had the chance to relay to Uncle Abdallah a message-I would say: 'We miss you dearly, O father!! Not only for the great service you provided to so many, and the odd hours that you would- without any complaint- jump to help others, but for your deep and caring heart, for your strength, for your love and kindness. I pray that you will rest in peace and comfort now, with no more pain or discomfort, and that you will be admitted into the most beautiful and wide expansive Heavens!! Ameen!!!'
IN PREPARATION FOR THE HAJ
IN PREPARATION FOR THE HAJ
So, you have made your plans and preparations to perform the haj, eh?
Your reservations for travel and accommodation have already been made and confirmed. You have either paid off your debts or come to some amicable agreement with your debtors, which frees you for the haj. You have had all the necessary vaccinations, and so now all the necessary paper work has been completed for your safe and smooth journey.
You have even either purchased or selected from your closet the clothing that you will need. Perhaps even your bags are already packed. And you have also put away a nice little bundle of money for your provisions and other needs along the way.
And you have even studied in books as a review on how to proceed through the haj, or perhaps you have attended lectures or some sort of classes of tutoring to prepare you for the haj.
And so, you are ready. But…are you REALLY ready?
This is a gathering of people from literally ever crack and corner of the world, uniting in this one spot, on this one day (namely-Arafat), for one purpose-to worship and humbly dedicate themselves to the One and Only God.
For even the most sage haji's, who have attended the haj many times over and are accustomed to this scene, it is still a tremendously emotional and impressively flabbergasting moment.
If you come by air, most likely your first glimpse of the haj atmosphere will greet you at the specially allocated haj terminal in Jeddah. The Saudi authorities have wisely set up this separate terminal building to help them more efficiently process the hundreds of thousands of hajis. This has helped them to free up the regular terminal somewhat for those traveling at this time for reasons other than the haj.
Then, as you first enter Makkah, you will notice the influx of the tens of thousands of pilgrims homing in on the Grand Mosque for prayer and the ceremonial circumambulation of the Kaaba as honey bees are attracted towards and held in magnetic connection to their queen and the hive.
Another beautiful site developing and increasing in recent years is something that I affectionately call 'Rainbos of the Haj'. This is the growing tendancy of the various separate groups coming for the haj, in particular those from non-arab lands, of assigning a one-color scheme of head-dress (hijab) for all of their female participants to don. It is not uncommon nowadays to look out onto the sea of humans in the Grand Mosque, and find a group of 20+ women donned in, for example, yellow scarves, followed by yet another group of purple, and yet another group of green, and so on and so forth, literally covering their heads with any and every color of the rainbow and all shades in between. This manner helps their own groups-helping to prevent losses from their groups in aiding them to identify one another.
As you progress towards Mina, the tent-city camp site where most of your stay will be, you will notice now more and more of the men donned in the traditional simple garb of two pieces of un-sewn white cloth. Here, at this point, (only one or two days before the haj of Arafat), the only men dressed in regular clothing are those not intending haj for themselves.
The days preceding the haj have come and gone. You have done your first visit of the Grand Mosque, performed some prayers and completed the circumambulation due upon your arrival. You have checked into your assigned tent in Mina, acquiring 'your space' for your stay.
Now the truly Big Day has arrived. The Day of Arafat. The Day of the Bigger Haj (al-Haj Al-Akbar), as it is so names by Allah in the Quran.
This is truly the Day of the Haj-for without attending to it in it's proper place, in proper manner, and in proper time, it does not count with Allah as Haj for that person, even if they may attend to all the other rites and rituals of the Haj. And as for all the other rites and rituals of the Haj-if you miss out on them in any way, there is expiation for that. But there is no form of expiation for missing the presence at Arafat-within it's set boundaries, and during the daylight hours up until sunset.
This most excellent day of the year is a day for prayers and supplication-seeking for His Mery and Forgiveness. So take the fullest advantage of this truly one-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
This is the Day in which Allah tells His angels that He indeed forgives those who have presented themselves to Him at this time and at this spot. So do not lose the spirit of the moment by worldly cares and worries.
For those who have the chance to participate in and witness for themselves the gathering of the pilgrims-all at one spot, all at one time, all facing one direction, all dressed the same, all for the same reason-humbling themselves to worship and serve the One and Only God-it is a fantastically overwhelming experience indeed.
Over 2 million, perhaps closer to 3 million, pilgrims-all worshipping the One God at one time! People from all over the globe-countless backgrounds, countless languages, countless professions and levels in society-all standing literally side by side, bowing all at one time, prostrating all at one time, in perfect unison and obedience behind one leader, all seeking the Mercy of their Creator and Sustainer.
It is a sight which is, perhaps, even chillingly predictive of the Day of Resurrection. A Day when all will be raised in a fashion of facing their Lord and Accounter.
But it is different still. For on this day, we are yet in this life, and we yet have the chance for repentance and redemption. We have this hane yet to hopefully wipe our slates clean.
For as Allah has promised us, for those who commit no sin nor debauchery in the haj, they will return after the haj as a new born babe, with a clean slate! Literally a new start! A second chance at a new life-with all past sins wiped off the slate!
It is truly overwhelming indeed-to the point where you may very well in fat find yourself at a loss of words or manner of how to ask what you most desperately need or want from your Lord. So do not let this sensation of overwhelm consume you to that extent. Rather, continue to remember Allah much in the simplest fashion.
Repeat the shahada over and over. This statement itself is truly the essence of Islam. So, repeat it often. It is something truly loved by Allah. Another phrase to frequently moisten your tongue with is: 'subhan-Allah wa bi hamdihi, subhan Allahul-adhim'. As recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim, this phrase is dearly beloved by the Most Merciful, light on the tongue, and heavy in the scales (of reward). So, repeat it often. And don't become forgetful or mindless of seeking Allah's forgiveness. Two great benefits of this is that one: it is a door-opener to having your other prayers answered; and, two: it is a method of attaining Allah's protection from His anger and punishment, as He Himself has promised us. And Allah never relinquishes on anything He promises.
Take the fullest advantage of the Day of the Haj. Humble yourself to Allah in seeking His Mercy and His Forgiveness. Reap the rih benefit to be had from the Haj. Take your belief to another higher and more encompassing level. Find the true brotherhood of Islam. Take care to help and be kind to your fellow pilgrims. Have much patience.
It is truly an out-of-this-world experience, if you will open yourself for it. Prepare yourself-leave the world and all of your worldly cares behind you for that short time. And sincerely give of yourself to Allah.
He has beckoned unto you, commanding His slave Ibrahim (AS) to proclaim the Haj when it's time comes. He has spoken-the Haj is now upon us. And you, my brothers and sisters, are answering His call: 'Labaik Allahumma labaik'. Pilgrims coming from literally every crack and corner of the world-to gather in answer to His all.
So reap the benefits of this time, and be of those who are sincere with they say: 'Laa ilaha illa Allah, Mohammedan rasool Allah.'
May Allah grant you the greatest benefit of this haj-to be forgiven of your sins, and to be granted entrance to His Paradise. And may He protect you to return to your loved ones in excellent form.
So, you have made your plans and preparations to perform the haj, eh?
Your reservations for travel and accommodation have already been made and confirmed. You have either paid off your debts or come to some amicable agreement with your debtors, which frees you for the haj. You have had all the necessary vaccinations, and so now all the necessary paper work has been completed for your safe and smooth journey.
You have even either purchased or selected from your closet the clothing that you will need. Perhaps even your bags are already packed. And you have also put away a nice little bundle of money for your provisions and other needs along the way.
And you have even studied in books as a review on how to proceed through the haj, or perhaps you have attended lectures or some sort of classes of tutoring to prepare you for the haj.
And so, you are ready. But…are you REALLY ready?
This is a gathering of people from literally ever crack and corner of the world, uniting in this one spot, on this one day (namely-Arafat), for one purpose-to worship and humbly dedicate themselves to the One and Only God.
For even the most sage haji's, who have attended the haj many times over and are accustomed to this scene, it is still a tremendously emotional and impressively flabbergasting moment.
If you come by air, most likely your first glimpse of the haj atmosphere will greet you at the specially allocated haj terminal in Jeddah. The Saudi authorities have wisely set up this separate terminal building to help them more efficiently process the hundreds of thousands of hajis. This has helped them to free up the regular terminal somewhat for those traveling at this time for reasons other than the haj.
Then, as you first enter Makkah, you will notice the influx of the tens of thousands of pilgrims homing in on the Grand Mosque for prayer and the ceremonial circumambulation of the Kaaba as honey bees are attracted towards and held in magnetic connection to their queen and the hive.
Another beautiful site developing and increasing in recent years is something that I affectionately call 'Rainbos of the Haj'. This is the growing tendancy of the various separate groups coming for the haj, in particular those from non-arab lands, of assigning a one-color scheme of head-dress (hijab) for all of their female participants to don. It is not uncommon nowadays to look out onto the sea of humans in the Grand Mosque, and find a group of 20+ women donned in, for example, yellow scarves, followed by yet another group of purple, and yet another group of green, and so on and so forth, literally covering their heads with any and every color of the rainbow and all shades in between. This manner helps their own groups-helping to prevent losses from their groups in aiding them to identify one another.
As you progress towards Mina, the tent-city camp site where most of your stay will be, you will notice now more and more of the men donned in the traditional simple garb of two pieces of un-sewn white cloth. Here, at this point, (only one or two days before the haj of Arafat), the only men dressed in regular clothing are those not intending haj for themselves.
The days preceding the haj have come and gone. You have done your first visit of the Grand Mosque, performed some prayers and completed the circumambulation due upon your arrival. You have checked into your assigned tent in Mina, acquiring 'your space' for your stay.
Now the truly Big Day has arrived. The Day of Arafat. The Day of the Bigger Haj (al-Haj Al-Akbar), as it is so names by Allah in the Quran.
This is truly the Day of the Haj-for without attending to it in it's proper place, in proper manner, and in proper time, it does not count with Allah as Haj for that person, even if they may attend to all the other rites and rituals of the Haj. And as for all the other rites and rituals of the Haj-if you miss out on them in any way, there is expiation for that. But there is no form of expiation for missing the presence at Arafat-within it's set boundaries, and during the daylight hours up until sunset.
This most excellent day of the year is a day for prayers and supplication-seeking for His Mery and Forgiveness. So take the fullest advantage of this truly one-in-a-lifetime opportunity.
This is the Day in which Allah tells His angels that He indeed forgives those who have presented themselves to Him at this time and at this spot. So do not lose the spirit of the moment by worldly cares and worries.
For those who have the chance to participate in and witness for themselves the gathering of the pilgrims-all at one spot, all at one time, all facing one direction, all dressed the same, all for the same reason-humbling themselves to worship and serve the One and Only God-it is a fantastically overwhelming experience indeed.
Over 2 million, perhaps closer to 3 million, pilgrims-all worshipping the One God at one time! People from all over the globe-countless backgrounds, countless languages, countless professions and levels in society-all standing literally side by side, bowing all at one time, prostrating all at one time, in perfect unison and obedience behind one leader, all seeking the Mercy of their Creator and Sustainer.
It is a sight which is, perhaps, even chillingly predictive of the Day of Resurrection. A Day when all will be raised in a fashion of facing their Lord and Accounter.
But it is different still. For on this day, we are yet in this life, and we yet have the chance for repentance and redemption. We have this hane yet to hopefully wipe our slates clean.
For as Allah has promised us, for those who commit no sin nor debauchery in the haj, they will return after the haj as a new born babe, with a clean slate! Literally a new start! A second chance at a new life-with all past sins wiped off the slate!
It is truly overwhelming indeed-to the point where you may very well in fat find yourself at a loss of words or manner of how to ask what you most desperately need or want from your Lord. So do not let this sensation of overwhelm consume you to that extent. Rather, continue to remember Allah much in the simplest fashion.
Repeat the shahada over and over. This statement itself is truly the essence of Islam. So, repeat it often. It is something truly loved by Allah. Another phrase to frequently moisten your tongue with is: 'subhan-Allah wa bi hamdihi, subhan Allahul-adhim'. As recorded by Al-Bukhari and Muslim, this phrase is dearly beloved by the Most Merciful, light on the tongue, and heavy in the scales (of reward). So, repeat it often. And don't become forgetful or mindless of seeking Allah's forgiveness. Two great benefits of this is that one: it is a door-opener to having your other prayers answered; and, two: it is a method of attaining Allah's protection from His anger and punishment, as He Himself has promised us. And Allah never relinquishes on anything He promises.
Take the fullest advantage of the Day of the Haj. Humble yourself to Allah in seeking His Mercy and His Forgiveness. Reap the rih benefit to be had from the Haj. Take your belief to another higher and more encompassing level. Find the true brotherhood of Islam. Take care to help and be kind to your fellow pilgrims. Have much patience.
It is truly an out-of-this-world experience, if you will open yourself for it. Prepare yourself-leave the world and all of your worldly cares behind you for that short time. And sincerely give of yourself to Allah.
He has beckoned unto you, commanding His slave Ibrahim (AS) to proclaim the Haj when it's time comes. He has spoken-the Haj is now upon us. And you, my brothers and sisters, are answering His call: 'Labaik Allahumma labaik'. Pilgrims coming from literally every crack and corner of the world-to gather in answer to His all.
So reap the benefits of this time, and be of those who are sincere with they say: 'Laa ilaha illa Allah, Mohammedan rasool Allah.'
May Allah grant you the greatest benefit of this haj-to be forgiven of your sins, and to be granted entrance to His Paradise. And may He protect you to return to your loved ones in excellent form.
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